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        12-27-2012, 05:46 PM
      #51
    Yearling
    I am shocked how many people have the mind set of "I pay you to do that", is there no common courtesy in this world anymore? I am beginning to see that there are alot of self centered and selfish people in the world of horses....
         
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        12-27-2012, 05:56 PM
      #52
    Weanling
    If you have a board contract that states that you receive certain services in exchange for certain remuneration, then yes, I will expect that stuff to be done because Yes, I do pay you to do that. If I went to the barn where I was paying for full board and my horse was standing in her own feces...I'd give the benefit of the doubt once or twice that something came up and they were going to get to it later that day, I'd probably even just clean it myself for the good of my horse. But if I repeatedly went out to my barn to find my horse in her dirty stall, well past any reasonable time for the stall to have been cleaned, (I work days, so I'd be going out say 5:30-6pm and sometimes as late at 7:30-8 pm) then yah, I'm going to be pretty upset that the service that I was paying for is not being completed to the detriment of my horse's health. I'm not in any way saying that I expect services to be performed that I'm NOT paying for.

    If I went to a restaurant and ordered food, I'd expect to receive it. I wouldn't expect free dessert just because I ordered dinner. But I'd expect dinner for sure.
         
        12-27-2012, 06:50 PM
      #53
    Foal
    Guess it depends on your personality on what kind of barn you'd enjoy.

    Both of my barn owners work full time. One works in the mail service and the other is a FireFighter/Medic. Thankfully one of them is usually always there. Then they have a guy who is there almost constantly cleaning and feeding. But i'm thinking he does it for free board for at least one of his horses....
    I have no issues what so ever helping out! They all help me so why wouldn't I return it?

    I actually cleaned my mares stall out today.. The man who usually does it was taking a break and playing with his horses so I went ahead and cleaned it real quick while she was out (she's in a mare mood this week.. rather him not have to deal with her in the stall). He was very greatful and I didn't do much!
         
        12-27-2012, 07:07 PM
      #54
    Yearling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by kenda    
    If you have a board contract that states that you receive certain services in exchange for certain remuneration, then yes, I will expect that stuff to be done because Yes, I do pay you to do that. If I went to the barn where I was paying for full board and my horse was standing in her own feces...I'd give the benefit of the doubt once or twice that something came up and they were going to get to it later that day, I'd probably even just clean it myself for the good of my horse. But if I repeatedly went out to my barn to find my horse in her dirty stall, well past any reasonable time for the stall to have been cleaned, (I work days, so I'd be going out say 5:30-6pm and sometimes as late at 7:30-8 pm) then yah, I'm going to be pretty upset that the service that I was paying for is not being completed to the detriment of my horse's health. I'm not in any way saying that I expect services to be performed that I'm NOT paying for.

    If I went to a restaurant and ordered food, I'd expect to receive it. I wouldn't expect free dessert just because I ordered dinner. But I'd expect dinner for sure.
    I don't think anyone was really saying you don't get what you pay for......what I mean is that would it really hurt once in awhile for someone to do something that is not expected of them......the same as I do for the horses here, I am not expected to groom them but I am out there alot and bring in all my horses and boarded horses (only one now) to groom and give them a treat of alfalfa.

    What I did for my boarder, for the man who rides my appy gelding for nothing (has for almost 4yrs.) and the girl who rides another one of my horses.......was I made them up a DVD of the vids/pics that I took of their horses, the rides we went on for the past year......I did it because I know how much they love the horses and it's a good memory for them. I also made them all bookmarks out of pics of them/the horses and cubes.....I do it because I appreciate them also.

    Doing something for someone "just because" is a great way of showing how much you appreciate what they do do.....
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        12-27-2012, 07:14 PM
      #55
    Weanling
    I'm not in any way saying "don't help out". If I have time and energy and I'm out there, I'm only to happy to help my BO out cleaning stalls or sweeping or helping dish out feed and she appreciates the help and that she gets extra time as a result to spend time with her own horse or her family or what have you. But if my BO came to rely on having my help when I'm already paying her the full board amount, to the point where I couldn't be sure that my horse was getting the appropriate care if I DIDN'T go out there, that's not fair to me. I work hard at my day job so that I can have my horse and keep her at the best barn I can afford. I shouldn't be in a position where I'm penalized or looked down on if during one week or one month, I just don't have time to help out.
         
        12-27-2012, 07:34 PM
      #56
    Weanling
    Sorry for the double post, couldn't edit in time.

    I don't post very much as a rule and I don't know what has be so worked up about this thread. Maybe its just that I don't like the implication that somehow if you're not helping out your BO on a regular, voluntary basis, you're some how showing that you don't appreciate there work, even if you're paying your full board fee on time every month.

    I also don't know if I'm representing my opinion very well. I don't want to come across as an ingrate. I tip servers in restaurants, I give gifts and help and heartfelt appreciation to my trainer and other people who do things in my life. But if the most someone can do is pay their expenses on time, if they just don't have time or funds for anything more, it's not really anyone's place to judge their degree of appreciation.
         
        12-27-2012, 08:20 PM
      #57
    Yearling
    I don't think it's really about judging the degree of appreciation.....everyone loves to be appreciated at what they do no matter what type of job they have.
    I don't expect help with what I am being paid to do but it is nice to know when they help me out so I can have the time to take off for the day trail riding with them.
    I do this because I love horses and not because of the money.

    BTW kenda I love your profile pic!
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        12-27-2012, 09:22 PM
      #58
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by kenda    
    Sorry for the double post, couldn't edit in time.

    I don't post very much as a rule and I don't know what has be so worked up about this thread. Maybe its just that I don't like the implication that somehow if you're not helping out your BO on a regular, voluntary basis, you're some how showing that you don't appreciate there work, even if you're paying your full board fee on time every month.

    I also don't know if I'm representing my opinion very well. I don't want to come across as an ingrate. I tip servers in restaurants, I give gifts and help and heartfelt appreciation to my trainer and other people who do things in my life. But if the most someone can do is pay their expenses on time, if they just don't have time or funds for anything more, it's not really anyone's place to judge their degree of appreciation.
    No not implying that at all! I don't help a heck of a lot.. I clean up after my mare if she makes a mess in a common area and i'll pitch in a little bit if it looks like someone needs help. Otherwise I enjoy my horse! If I was EXPECTED to clean my own stall and feed my own horse i'd expect to pay much much much less!
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        12-27-2012, 10:11 PM
      #59
    Trained
    I have really mostly skimmed through this, and have to say-folks-all it really takes is combo respect and courtesy. Clean up after yourself-it you know the BO or staff are super busy and you have time-pitch in. Quit the whole "I pay so I am entitled" attitude. It makes some of us want to throw up. What a bunch of spoiled brats. Bo, staff, etc are people too. Delfina-I found your attitude particularly offensive. Man I sure am glad I board where I do. I am gone 6 months out of the year. My BO knows that ahead of time, and she has to deal with the barn in the winter. Few of us show up then. She knows that. If I happen to be in town, or others are out-we always pitch in if possible (ei if we bring our horse in to ride-we will leave it so she doesn't have to go get it.) However-I will say-if there is EVER an issue-we as a group of boarders take it upon ourselves to make a sure the horses are cared for, stalls cleaned and chores done, until the BO is available again. If it is something of her own choice-she typically hires barn help to cover (ie vacation). Delfina-I had 3 saddles and one horse and felt awful for taking up room I shouldn't. After all, all of us share that tack room, and if we all had 3 saddles, we wouldn't be able to walk in there. I typically keep extra stuff in my trailer, or at my house, other than what I use regularly. It is just rude and thoughtless, IMO, to think you are so entitled, unless the tack room is so huge and has endless saddle racks.
    The whole tone of this thread is very self centered, IMO. Just my perception, and the way I read it. BO's-if you have a boarder who is bugging you, take it up with them. Why would this entire thread be about ONE bad boarder and not all the good boarders you have? They do, after all, by your own admission, OP, outnumber the bad. Guess the glass is half empty?
         
        12-27-2012, 10:22 PM
      #60
    Yearling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by franknbeans    
    I have really mostly skimmed through this, and have to say-folks-all it really takes is combo respect and courtesy. Clean up after yourself-it you know the BO or staff are super busy and you have time-pitch in. Quit the whole "I pay so I am entitled" attitude. It makes some of us want to throw up. What a bunch of spoiled brats. Bo, staff, etc are people too. Delfina-I found your attitude particularly offensive. Man I sure am glad I board where I do. I am gone 6 months out of the year. My BO knows that ahead of time, and she has to deal with the barn in the winter. Few of us show up then. She knows that. If I happen to be in town, or others are out-we always pitch in if possible (ei if we bring our horse in to ride-we will leave it so she doesn't have to go get it.) However-I will say-if there is EVER an issue-we as a group of boarders take it upon ourselves to make a sure the horses are cared for, stalls cleaned and chores done, until the BO is available again. If it is something of her own choice-she typically hires barn help to cover (ie vacation). Delfina-I had 3 saddles and one horse and felt awful for taking up room I shouldn't. After all, all of us share that tack room, and if we all had 3 saddles, we wouldn't be able to walk in there. I typically keep extra stuff in my trailer, or at my house, other than what I use regularly. It is just rude and thoughtless, IMO, to think you are so entitled, unless the tack room is so huge and has endless saddle racks.
    The whole tone of this thread is very self centered, IMO. Just my perception, and the way I read it. BO's-if you have a boarder who is bugging you, take it up with them. Why would this entire thread be about ONE bad boarder and not all the good boarders you have? They do, after all, by your own admission, OP, outnumber the bad. Guess the glass is half empty?
    I realize you haven't read all the posts......I have a good boarder that has been here for over 6yrs. Now and we both respect each other.......I read the same meaning of Delfina as being very demanding and I'm glad I have a good relationship with the ones who board here. I don't expect nothing in return but it is nice to know they appreciate what I do for their horses and for them....
         

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