I guess my point is...if the good is much more common, why would we even focus on the bad?
Just one more point. The barn I am at now does not have "farmhands". But, even at the ones who do-I treat them no differently than anyone else. They need help sometimes to, and are NOT there to wait on people who are lazy, JMHO. I was at a training facility last winter where they looked at me like I had 3 heads when I asked for a broom to sweep after grooming my horse. They told me I didn't "have" to do that. In my mind, I do. It is my horse, my mess and mine to clean up, not theirs, when they have so much else to do. I personally am really uncomfortable at barns where people expect to be waited on. I just find that part of owning a horse, just like mucking, scrubbing buckets and everything else. I know I don't HAVE to, but I sure feel stupid standing there while someone else is working. To each their own. And, I will say-I have never left a barn I would not be welcomed back at with open arms. Ever. Treat people-ALL of them-like you would want to be treated. Same goes for the person who cleans my house, paints, mulches, etc.
I absolutely agree with you.
And, I board because I can't afford a property where I can keep my horse at home. This doesn't mean that I think my BO is a slave. If he's mucking, I grab a fork and help.
If I open my little storage area (I am not in the main barn) and notice there is only one hay bale there, but I need to go to the main barn for something, I carry a bale back with me.
If it's 3pm and I want to see my horse, I'll hang tight, my BO feeds at 4. I can go then, help him, and see my horse.
To me that's just manners.
I could never stand there and watch someone do something I could do myself and not help. Many boarders do though. There is one who every day picks out her horses feet and leaves it in the aisle. It's not my place, so I say nothing. But goodness, do you have no manners.
I don't pay for a stall in the main barn, but I often use one, it's totally fine, for me to put my horse in there while waiting for the farrier or tacking up if the cross ties are in use. There's a reason why I can. I clean and sweep that stall, the way they do their stalls, they sweep the bedding back into the back 2/3s of the stall, so I do that. I pick out my horses feet into a bucket and put it in the trash, rinse out the bucket, put the bucket back. My BO tells me I am unique, maybe I just had an over expecting Mother, I can't imagine doing anything less.
To me it's basic manners.
I am also welcome back into all but one barn. She was my trainer and I boarded at her house. I fired her as a trainer, so had to find somewhere else to board. However every other barn I have been at are still friends, and I am welcome tomorrow if I needed to.