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        12-28-2012, 11:03 AM
      #71
    Weanling
    Well said, Frank!
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        12-28-2012, 06:05 PM
      #72
    Green Broke
    I agree with you completely, frank.

    It's all part of owning a horse.
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        12-29-2012, 12:20 PM
      #73
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by franknbeans    
    I guess my point is...if the good is much more common, why would we even focus on the bad?
    I know this is just our experience, but over the many, many years we've been in business, we have managed to find an overabundance of people who board horses who... well, they do really stupid, inconsiderate and rude things (to fellow boarders and barn owners, alike... or even just in general). I'm sure many of them could read about themselves on here and not even recognize themselves, but... it's worth a try to spell out how to behave at a boarding facility, right? :) At least the people who are interested in being a "good boarder", if they aren't sure about something, can use this as a reference of generalized ideas on what makes a person a good boarder.

    Some of the best boarders we've had have been the ones that just pay the bill on time, do their thing with their horse (including cleaning up after themselves), and go home. They enjoy their horses, don't cause drama and are courteous. :) Nothing here is a "definite", just a starting point for further discussion with their own barn owners, should an issue arise... or if they want to just have an idea for themselves, you know? :)
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        12-29-2012, 10:49 PM
      #74
    Yearling
    borders (stable issues)

    Hiya im a border on what was a big yard.
    The yard is small now and most of the land sold I have known the owners for quite a lot of years and I help out on all aspects were I can.
    Maintaining fenceing and also managing my own paddock the mud and rain tell me about it.
    My hay comes with my livery payment I pay 284 a month for 1 pony and 1 horse.
    I repair all the paddocks electric fenceing I muck my own horses out and I also feed mine at night when mine are fed in the morning my frend puts rugs on them and turns them out thay have a hay net each and breakfast chaff ect.
    And if thay are stuck for time I muck out about 6 boxes no problems I also maintain the water and electrics as well I keep my tack area clean and my feed is in a steel antivermin 3 bay box and all my rugs are kept in big plastic trunks.
    I sweep the yard I also use a small bucket when I hoof out there feet.
    I am there every day unless I have been called out at work or I am to ill to crawl the 6 miles to the yard.
    I also buy my barn ownerpresents like tack that she would need for her ponys and horse.
    I also help her with her ponys that she wants to drive and I also got to break her brothers 2 ponys to harness as he did some work on my 4 wheel waggonet (exercise cart) and a frends pony as well up the road.
    I also remove shoes I have a full farrier kit as well for emergencys and firse aid kits for humans and the horses and a notice board is there as well for shoeing dates and vacenations as well as livery payment dates as well and any misalanious things that mite crop up.
    We have no arena or indoor school but im happy with that a frend has one down the road which we can use.
    We also have fire fighting equipment and cctv as well.
    And I help out with moveing the muck and follow my frend with his tractor with my car or his 4x4 do dump the muck for composting.
    I just perchased a horse from her as I lost my mare just over a year ago now I have had him for four months.
    Ill be honest im a happy border.
    Every barn I have been on I have left some thing good behind like a new watermain or a rewire were my horses were becaus the wireing was a danger in wooden boxes all coduited up and safe away from the horses.
    I have been on a few bad barns but if you don't like the standards move on but the best person to look after your bit of the barn as a border is your self nobody ealse all ways treat the place as how you like to find it your self and treat every border with respect and other peoples property and horses as well.
    I know there are some people who get your back up against the wall we had one here she drove me nuts but she got the letter to quitt the barn which she did thanks for small merseys.
    Thanks for reading.
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        12-30-2012, 12:29 AM
      #75
    Banned
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    Originally Posted by franknbeans    
    I guess my point is...if the good is much more common, why would we even focus on the bad?

    Just one more point. The barn I am at now does not have "farmhands". But, even at the ones who do-I treat them no differently than anyone else. They need help sometimes to, and are NOT there to wait on people who are lazy, JMHO. I was at a training facility last winter where they looked at me like I had 3 heads when I asked for a broom to sweep after grooming my horse. They told me I didn't "have" to do that. In my mind, I do. It is my horse, my mess and mine to clean up, not theirs, when they have so much else to do. I personally am really uncomfortable at barns where people expect to be waited on. I just find that part of owning a horse, just like mucking, scrubbing buckets and everything else. I know I don't HAVE to, but I sure feel stupid standing there while someone else is working. To each their own. And, I will say-I have never left a barn I would not be welcomed back at with open arms. Ever. Treat people-ALL of them-like you would want to be treated. Same goes for the person who cleans my house, paints, mulches, etc.
    I absolutely agree with you.

    And, I board because I can't afford a property where I can keep my horse at home. This doesn't mean that I think my BO is a slave. If he's mucking, I grab a fork and help.

    If I open my little storage area (I am not in the main barn) and notice there is only one hay bale there, but I need to go to the main barn for something, I carry a bale back with me.

    If it's 3pm and I want to see my horse, I'll hang tight, my BO feeds at 4. I can go then, help him, and see my horse.

    To me that's just manners.

    I could never stand there and watch someone do something I could do myself and not help. Many boarders do though. There is one who every day picks out her horses feet and leaves it in the aisle. It's not my place, so I say nothing. But goodness, do you have no manners.

    I don't pay for a stall in the main barn, but I often use one, it's totally fine, for me to put my horse in there while waiting for the farrier or tacking up if the cross ties are in use. There's a reason why I can. I clean and sweep that stall, the way they do their stalls, they sweep the bedding back into the back 2/3s of the stall, so I do that. I pick out my horses feet into a bucket and put it in the trash, rinse out the bucket, put the bucket back. My BO tells me I am unique, maybe I just had an over expecting Mother, I can't imagine doing anything less.

    To me it's basic manners.

    I am also welcome back into all but one barn. She was my trainer and I boarded at her house. I fired her as a trainer, so had to find somewhere else to board. However every other barn I have been at are still friends, and I am welcome tomorrow if I needed to.
         
        12-31-2012, 06:06 PM
      #76
    Weanling
    Wow, what should be civil discussions about etiquette sure can devolve on the Interweb.

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        12-31-2012, 06:43 PM
      #77
    Foal
    I have some chapters to add in. Some of these might of already been mentioned, but I'm going to put MY opinion of it :)
    Tack Room
    1. Your tack is your tack. That boarders tack is that boarders tack. There is NO exceptions (unless you have permission) to use someone elses tack! You have your own, they have theirs. If you want to use a bit or whatever, ask! Don't take!
    2. Don't ever mess with others people stuff. Don't say "Oh I'll borrow her leadrope and return it later." because chances are you wont remember whos it even was!
    Riding Horses (This goes for BOs, too)
    1. Never ride someones horse without their permission. The horse could be hurt or sick or simply just be having the day off after a show.
    2. NEVER EVER put lesson kids on a boarders horses without their permission! What if the horse had been acting strange and spooky lately?
    Sorry its so short!
         
        01-01-2013, 11:55 PM
      #78
    Yearling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Barrelracer00    
    I have some chapters to add in. Some of these might of already been mentioned, but I'm going to put MY opinion of it :)
    Tack Room
    1. Your tack is your tack. That boarders tack is that boarders tack. There is NO exceptions (unless you have permission) to use someone elses tack! You have your own, they have theirs. If you want to use a bit or whatever, ask! Don't take!
    2. Don't ever mess with others people stuff. Don't say "Oh I'll borrow her leadrope and return it later." because chances are you wont remember whos it even was!
    Riding Horses (This goes for BOs, too)
    1. Never ride someones horse without their permission. The horse could be hurt or sick or simply just be having the day off after a show.
    2. NEVER EVER put lesson kids on a boarders horses without their permission! What if the horse had been acting strange and spooky lately?
    Sorry its so short!
    Definetly good tips! I had a problem with one boarder who figured she could use whatever she wanted. It became a big problem, so I posted rules, they were meant for her and she sure didn't like me doing that but it bugged the hell out of me when I went to get something and it wasn't where it should be or when she used someone's else's tack or my horse to put kids on without asking first! I finally had enough of her and asked her to remove her horse/her belongings and move....
         
        01-02-2013, 12:49 AM
      #79
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Thunderspark    
    Definetly good tips!... I finally had enough of her and asked her to remove her horse/her belongings and move....
    Good for you! That is actually something boarders should consider - Barn Owners already know boarders will leave if they don't fulfill their obligations as agreed. Boarders - barn owners can and WILL ask you to leave if you become a problem. How much notice they give is probably based on your contract, however, in many areas, if you are determined to be a risk, notice can be as little as the BO decides. Really, it depends on your contact and jurisdictional agisters/stableman's laws. Either way, it sucks to be THAT person.
    Another thing to think about: personally, as a barn owner, I won't badmouth you. However, other people at the barn have probably witnessed the problems you created if they were bad enough to warrant an eviction - and I can't speak for them. Further, if someone says you trash talked and slandered my facility, the truth of the situation will be made known to those you choose to involve.
    As has been said: treat people the way you'd like to be treated.
    Another important note: when it comes to those attempting to compare a boarding facility to any other kind of business, whether you are a gas station attendant, taco wrapper or a wall street banker, you are sorely mistaken. There is absolutely no comparison, on any level.
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        01-02-2013, 02:05 AM
      #80
    Yearling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by sillyhorses    
    Good for you! That is actually something boarders should consider - Barn Owners already know boarders will leave if they don't fulfill their obligations as agreed. Boarders - barn owners can and WILL ask you to leave if you become a problem. How much notice they give is probably based on your contract, however, in many areas, if you are determined to be a risk, notice can be as little as the BO decides. Really, it depends on your contact and jurisdictional agisters/stableman's laws. Either way, it sucks to be THAT person.
    Another thing to think about: personally, as a barn owner, I won't badmouth you. However, other people at the barn have probably witnessed the problems you created if they were bad enough to warrant an eviction - and I can't speak for them. Further, if someone says you trash talked and slandered my facility, the truth of the situation will be made known to those you choose to involve.
    As has been said: treat people the way you'd like to be treated.
    Another important note: when it comes to those attempting to compare a boarding facility to any other kind of business, whether you are a gas station attendant, taco wrapper or a wall street banker, you are sorely mistaken. There is absolutely no comparison, on any level.
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    Well I did it politely, I emailed her stating she had a month to remove her horse/stuff (sad thing was the horse originally belonged to me when he was 2 and he was 7 this year), she kept emailing me nasty emails.....saying so and so said or did this, blah blah blah.....I would reply back with the date she was to be gone, she caused so much drama here! Since she got the horse a year ago he has turned into a disrespectful horse that no one felt safe riding with her but she wouldn't listen to anyone! I miss the horse and felt bad for him, she treats him like a dog and it shows with him misbehaving which he was always good till she took over! I know she went around bad mouthing me over it but everyone around here knows her and they won't ride with her either because she has no control of her horse.....so they know the truth. Since she's been gone since last March it's been less stressful around here for everyone and we had a wonderful summer/fall riding with safe horses/riders!
         

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