Originally Posted by verona1016
I'm not saying that the first thought to come to anyone's mind when Grandma end up in the hospital and it looks like she doesn't have much longer is "Oh, better get Sally to go make sure my pony is OK!" But after you've been gone a couple days you do start to worry about your horse. And you may ask your friend who's gone with you to the barn many times to go give him some love until you get back. And not all of us are best friends with our BO's, so while we may think to let them know we've gone out of town unexpectedly, we may not also think to tell them that Sally is going to stop by at some point.
If you have that much time to put through a thought process, then you can take two seconds
to call the BO and let them know a stranger will be coming to check on your horse. It's not rocket science.
I would not board at a barn where there weren't checks and balances like this. You don't want any Joe Schmoe to be able to wander around the barn, because there are some crazies in the world who will do things to animals for no reason.
The safety of my horse is important to me and no one is to handle my horse unless it has been approved by me.
So going back to the OP's question, I wouldn't necessarily label it "rude" or "invasive" but I think in that case, the horse's owner needs to give the BO notice that it is okay for X friend to feed her horse Cheez-Its. If I was that BO, her friend would not step foot in the barn until I heard from the boarder herself. (Unless the BO wants to be liable for a law suit, because we know America is sue-happy.) I would expect the BO to want notices like this, to protect themselves legally.
And I agree. Anyone who sets foot in the barn needs to sign a liability waiver. Again, the BO needs to protect themselves too.