There are a couple of things here where I feel you should ask the BO about them. For instance, when she banged his tail, was it just a wild hair or did he catch it and pull out a big wad and she was trying to make it look nice again? If it was a wild hair I'd come unglued and tell her that no way, not ever was she to touch my horse's tail again. I'd also have it braided and up to protect it, but us Arabian people are kind of crazy that way anyhow. If I didn't want to pull the mane, I'd just tell her that I prefer the mane long and would not be pulling it. She's suggesting what she thinks is great for her ideal horse, that's not your ideal horse, so just tell her you don't like that and it's not what you want.
As for the vaccinations, are you overdue? Here at my place you'd be welcome to do the vaccinations on your own, but I have specific dates by when they have to be done or I'll do them. When a new horse comes in (rare, I'm full), I make sure they are UTD on everything before they come in, then I let the boarder know that by 3/15 of every year, they have to be boostered. I send out an e-mail on 2/15 reminding everyone they have 30 days to get their horses vaccinated and to give me proof, either the vet bill or the stickers off their vaccine bottles and I mark each horse on the white board in the feed barn as to what they got and when they got it. Anyone who is blank on 3/15, I have the vet out to do all boarder horses that haven't been attended to, and I do my own. She may not be that organized, but I suspect that's what she's thinking.
Unless directed otherwise in writing, I do every horse on the place when the farrier is out and he direct bills the clients. I would never do shoes or ride a boarder's horse without previous direction and I certainly wouldn't take off on a camping/trail trip with one! That's waaaay over the mark. I know this doesn't apply to this case but that shocked me.
As for the riding thing, it's up to you whether you EVER go out and see your horse, but it sounds like she likes you and likes to see you out there. But, if her e-mails bother you, block her.
Here, you can have a locking tack truck or bring in your own locker and put it in the feed barn if you like, but if it ain't locked, no guarantees on someone borrowing it. I try to furnish basics, like shampoo, fly spray, spare brushes and combs and hoof picks but not everyone is good about staying out of other folks stuff.
Last edited by Dreamcatcher Arabians; 03-29-2012 at 02:25 PM.