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post #1 of 23 Old 04-18-2012, 11:04 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Boarding with a disrespectful horse

I am bringing my new horse to her new home tomorrow. She will be boarded with just one other horse - a draft. I know the owner, very nice guy with a good reputation in the area. I've been around his horse outside the fence and he seemed fine, though a bit spoiled but nothing too scary. Yesterday I went to get my horse's stall ready and just learn where everything is. The draft was completely rude. He pushed his owner against a wall with his head, he put his head over mine three times, knocking the head band out of my hair and turned his butt to me once. I did not feel safe. The owner thinks this behavior is okay and that his horse "just doesn't know how much bigger he is than us" so I don't know how he'd like me trying to correct his horse. Not sure how to handle this. So, rather than being excited about getting my new horse - I'm totally stressed out!! Any advice?
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post #2 of 23 Old 04-18-2012, 11:37 AM
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Make sure your safe it the horse invades your space make him think twice about it. I dont care whos horse it is they should respect you or you will get hurt.
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post #3 of 23 Old 04-18-2012, 11:44 AM
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You can't make him teach his horse manners, and it sounds like the big fella is completely lacking in that area. I would just stay away from him. If you have to be in an enclosed space or field with the horse protect yourself and your horse. Maybe by watching you and your respectful horse the owner will realize he needs to lay down the law with his.
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post #4 of 23 Old 04-18-2012, 11:58 AM
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You first need to protect yourself and your horse. Is it possible to keep them separated for a week or so to get to know each other before putting them together?

I would be very concerned about a horse who has no respect and an owner that allows it. While this may be an ideal place due to the facilities and location, it may not be the best place for your horse and yourself considering safety. Just something to keep in mind.

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post #5 of 23 Old 04-18-2012, 12:10 PM
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Originally Posted by iridehorses View Post
Is it possible to keep them separated for a week or so to get to know each other before putting them together?

A week 'quarantine' is ideal all the way around. Horse and new owner get to know each other, new horse gets some adjustment time and the BO can learn what is 'normal' for the new horse. (ie. always stands with right rear cocked, dunks hay, drinks a lot, etc)
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post #6 of 23 Old 04-18-2012, 01:08 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm already brainstorming a back-up plan if this situation doesn't work out. I live on 1.5 flat acres and could keep a horse at my place but decided to board her there because I don't have good trails near my house. But safety comes first - for me and her - and I will prepare my place and bring her here if I need to.
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post #7 of 23 Old 04-24-2012, 09:52 PM
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I own a boarding barn and I encourage anyone to walk in the pasture with a stick if ever they don't feel safe. Everyone in our herd quickly learns to back off if one is even wiggled at them. No bickering is tolerated while humans are in the pasture, especially if a horse is in-hand. Defend your space and own your horse! That is our barn rule and our herd is happy and mellow, for the most part.

I would never get in close quarters with a horse that physcially disrespects me.
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post #8 of 23 Old 04-24-2012, 10:03 PM
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I would never board where my horse is in a mixed area with someone elses horse. If I didnt have a private field for him I would find somewhere else. Too much drama exactly like this constantly coming up.
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post #9 of 23 Old 04-24-2012, 11:14 PM
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Whaa..? Isolated boarding isn't common around here. Usually reserved for high-priced show or performance horses and ridiculously expensive. In my experience, a horse in a herd benefits immeasureably from the social interaction. I couldn't imagine handling the three 2 year olds in my pasture if they didn't have each other to burn off their steam. I'm all for natural-based horsekeeping, myself. How else are the punks in my herd supposed to learn manners? Also, the average horse owner cannot spend enough time in a day (HOURS) to offset the effects of isolation. A herd can bridge that gap and then some. jmo.
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post #10 of 23 Old 04-25-2012, 09:11 AM
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When entering the pasture always carry your lunge whip. You need the longer one with a large horse. If he approaches you just hold the whip pointed toward his chest and swing it rhythmically side to side. He may walk into it but will likely move away. If not, deliver a good whack high on his neck. That will definitely turn him away but beware the back end as he does so and be sure to quickly step away.
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