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        11-09-2013, 04:56 PM
      #21
    Showing
    "This letter gives notice that due to circumstances beyond my control I find it necessary that we (your name and horse) will vacate the premises on (name date)." And date and sign it. The less said the better. If she presses you for some answers, let her know it's nothing you can discuss with her at this time.
         
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        11-10-2013, 01:27 AM
      #22
    Weanling
    We checked out the other facility today (NOT our coach's barn). It was BEAUTIFUL! The place was immaculate! The horses were all healthy and beautiful. I was very impressed. However, after talking fees and amenities, we will not be moving there. 1. Their cheapest rate was $200 more than what I pay now. 2. They do not offer pasture board at all. Our mare HATES being stalled and we only put her in during bad weather. 3. It's further away than we thought and I would have to travel busy roads during peak traffic to get there.

    So, it will be our coach's barn which will be cheaper in the long run. For what we are paying now for board (current barn) and lessons (coach), if we move to our coach...we receive board, lessons for daughter AND training for our horse. She also does not have tons if additional fees for trailer storage, supplements, "better quality grain" (she feeds really good grain and hay).

    We do have a plan C if moving to our coach's place falls through. It's actually cheaper than our coach or our current barn, but further out in the country. They offer pasture board AND an indoor, 2 covered, and 2 outdoor arenas!

    I'll keep you posted as the situation develops.
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        11-11-2013, 03:18 AM
      #23
    Foal
    HorseMom - I did this YESTERDAY! Breaking up is hard to do, but once you do, you'll feel great! For me, my horse has been at this facility for 8 years with 5 of those years with me, but I was only leasing her up until 3 months ago. Before I talked to the trainer and BO I visited the new place several times, it was immaculate and clean on my random unscheduled visits. I set up a lesson with the trainer/owner to make sure I liked her style and everything was in check. At the end I gave her a check, I insisted, to hold a place for me, I'll be going in 20 days.

    I went straight to my barn and talked to the BO. I told her I needed to talk to her and made sure no one else was around so I wouldn't start a domino effect with the other boarders. I simply told her I was leaving because I felt unsafe riding in the arena with poor lighting. I also mentioned the arena footing but didn't go into detail. I wanted to tell her the specifics but didn't want to upset her. I really love the other boarders there and that family but that's not enough for me. My specific reasons:

    Poor arena lighting, only 1/2 lit

    Poor arena footing, dirt and they have been putting piles of fresh manure to make better

    Poor footing contains surprises...I literally found a rusty round saw blade one day in it. Another horse's foot got a piece of metal punctured and driven up in hoof. Seriously. Think of nail in a tire scenario. Vet said if infected horse would need surgery, but it didn't result to that.

    Poor arena footing creates ALOT of dust

    Poor arena footing is attempting to be controlled by overwatering. Which creates massive slick spots. I've slipped a few times at the canter.

    Rocks in the arena. Rocks.

    Instead of fixing automatic waters in stalls that are leaking, giant buckets are placed under them. Some are just left as is and creates muddy spots in stalls.

    Some horses are very thin. My got pretty ribby last summer.

    Running children, no rules, people falling off horses getting spooked. Broken bones.

    I asked for my horse to get additional hay at lunch time and I said I would pay for it, it never happened. I now buy extra hay from the barn and throw it in myself.

    General bad neighborhood.

    No drainage or even an even floor at wash rack. Mud. Broken spickets, at one point had to use a clamp to turn water on.

    Why did I go here in the first place? People were great and facility was a lot nicer years ago. New place has beautiful footing, stadium lighting, and horses were fat and happy.
         
        11-12-2013, 09:55 PM
      #24
    Weanling
    Just be professional. Give your notice.. no reason needs to be stated why. And tell them you want to leave on good terms in case you end up wanting to move back.
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        11-13-2013, 05:51 PM
      #25
    Weanling
    Oh the drama. *sigh*. We sent the BO a text requesting a meeting. She called a good friend of our coach freaking out and blaming our coach for bad mouthing her. :(. Our coach has never said ANYTHING negative about our BO. She has always stayed out of it.

    The only reason she called to let me know is because she's worried that the BO will flip out on me and wanted me to be prepared...especially if I tell her we are moving to Coach's barn...since she is already blaming Coach.

    My husband is coming out with me for the meeting, just in case. If things go south, I'll need an escape plan. :(
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        11-13-2013, 05:57 PM
      #26
    Showing
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    Originally Posted by HorseMom1025    
    The only reason she called to let me know is because she's worried that the BO will flip out on me and wanted me to be prepared...especially if I tell her we are moving to Coach's barn...since she is already blaming Coach.

    My husband is coming out with me for the meeting, just in case. If things go south, I'll need an escape plan. :(
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    Just don't tell her where you're moving her to then?
         
        11-13-2013, 06:13 PM
      #27
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    Originally Posted by HorseMom1025    
    Oh the drama. *sigh*. We sent the BO a text requesting a meeting. She called a good friend of our coach freaking out and blaming our coach for bad mouthing her. :(. Our coach has never said ANYTHING negative about our BO. She has always stayed out of it.

    The only reason she called to let me know is because she's worried that the BO will flip out on me and wanted me to be prepared...especially if I tell her we are moving to Coach's barn...since she is already blaming Coach.

    My husband is coming out with me for the meeting, just in case. If things go south, I'll need an escape plan. :(
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    Good luck, let us know how it goes!! Just try to keep things as short and sweet as possible... hopefully the barn owner will quit working herself up! And YES for the escape plan! You don't want yourself or your horse stuck if things do go south!
         
        11-13-2013, 06:36 PM
      #28
    Weanling
    We don't intend to say much. I do have examples of issues that were mentioned and not fixed.

    My husband intends to tell her we are looking at 3 barns with current openings that are holding a spot for us (there are 3 good barns with openings that all would welcome us)...and that we are still deciding. He feels a small white lie is better to keep drama to a minimum. (After all, we will still be there for 30 days...and need our coach for my daughter's lessons!)

    I will post an update when the dust settles.
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        11-13-2013, 10:17 PM
      #29
    Green Broke
    ^A white lie may not be a wholly bad idea in this situation ;)

    Good luck with everything.
         
        11-13-2013, 10:29 PM
      #30
    Started
    I just wanted to say I've had to do a similar move before- except I was the BM and needed out ASAP due to a really bad situation. I feel your pain! Good luck in the meeting with the BO and in your move!
         

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