I'm 15 years old and have two paint horses. They are my life, literally. I've been through a lot of hard situations in my life and my horses are the only think keeping me from really hurting myself. I board at a stables that charges $300 a month but do the second horse it's $275. Because of our financial difficulties right now, we've managed to get back board up to $2,800. I can't sell them I don't have it in me. The "agreement" was that if you're 2 or more moths behind on your board the owner technically owns your horses until back board is payed. But, she never gave us a contract to sign. So does that mean that I can take my horses out? The owner is spreading nasty untrue rumor about my family and I, to the point where I can't even go out there without feeling uncomfortable. Being that my horses are all I have, I would love to actually enjoy them again. They're everything to me. I also don't want any hard feelings but I will do anything to get them back. I also think that she is trying to over charge on board because she claimed that she had just got my horses hooves done two weeks ago and charged me $75 but when I went out there, their hooves were about curled. That's not even possible. My farrier is very trusted and even the worst farrier in the world couldn't do that bad of a job. But, I have no solid proof. So is it irrelevant? This is kinda urgent because I often literally get sick to my stomach just thinking about this whole situation. I feel as if my heart is being torn in two. I CANNOT lose them. Please give advise! Thank you!!!
You should have made your own thread, but it's here, so I'm just going to reply.
Listen, I understand how much your horses mean to you.
I understand what it feels like to know in your mind that you would have shot yourself in the head a long time ago if it wasn't for those horses.
I understand that you thank God every night for those horses, and I understand that they are your life. I've been there, I know that. Hell, I'm there right now, and I'll never leave that place.
But honey, you need to think about them.
Their feet are curling, the barn owner is probably not happy about them being there, and you can't afford to take care of them anymore. Do you think they are happy being in the middle of the whole situation? I heavily doubt it. I would consider leasing them off to another family.
Leasing is not selling. They are still in your name, and you can still see them whenever you want. BUT, on a full lease, someone else can take care of them. Someone else can pay for them, and love them, and give them all the attention your beautiful babies deserve. And the best part? You can get a check for owning them! Maybe it's not much, maybe it's two hundred bucks for both of them to be on full lease to someone else. But sweetheart, it's a heck of a lot better than sinking further and further into debt. And one day, you'll finally get back on your feet and you can get them back, and they are fully yours again.
This is seriously your best option, and the only thing I think you should do. At this point, you just can't be selfish. It will never work in the horse world.