Originally Posted by mildot
I'll be brutally honest.
I don't understand why people let a service provider treat them that way.
I wouldn't put up with this crap for more than it would take me to find a different barn, certainly not a year or more.
I also do not understand why these situations are so full of drama.
If I were in your shoes I would not engage this "trainer" in any discussions about why you are leaving. It is none of her business. Whether she agrees with your assesment of the barn's physical condition or not is completely irrelevant.
While I tend to agree, remember, the OP has one horse who may not be able to move right now. So, I can certainly understand why she is placating her at the moment. I am not really sure why wait until Tuesday, but there must be a really good reason. I also understand that over time, regardless of the trainers attitude, you develop a relationship with people. Perhaps she is difficult, but she does have some knowledge that the OP can use, which makes it a little tough to totally blow her off until a new trainer can be found. We all know that many trainers can be "difficult" at times, and we have to blow it off to achieve the greater goal. I certainly would never do anything but try to appease someone who is responsible for my horses-even for a couple more days. After we are gone-anything goes, and yeah-a good B!t@# slap is in order,