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post #11 of 25 Old 04-01-2013, 11:00 AM
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The one thing I'll add is, in their eyes you are a child. Your mother is your money, and that's all these people are after. Id view the other barn, reserve and then have your mother speak to the owner at your current barn and pay notice per your contract.
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post #12 of 25 Old 04-02-2013, 10:31 AM
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Talk to your mother, get her to reserve stall at other barn, as I imagine that will be filling up fast and then get out asap.

I doubt in this situation I would be giving notice, as I would want my horse out of there. And go ahead and move all your tack first too, as it may disappear once they know you are leaving.

"Trainers" like this one, will end up ruining her boarding business pretty quickly too.

AND it may be that this "trainer" has actually LEASED the barn, and only has to put up with you all, until she can run you off.

That is actually what it sounds like to me.

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I agree with Palomine, sounds like maybe they have leased all or part of the barn to a trainer. When I took over my current situation as BM the BO had leased one of the barns to a pair of trainers that had no regard for the other boarders at all. They ran the round pens, arenas and everything else like it was theirs. They didn't last long with me and are now gone.

I agree that you should talk to your mother, she sounds supportive, lease at the new barn, move your tack and horse as soon as you can even if you have to pay for the full month based on contract, notice etc... Your horse and happiness is what is most important and you can not really enjoy your time with your horse in an environment like that.

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post #14 of 25 Old 04-02-2013, 09:48 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for replying to my novel!

Its so nice to hear that people don't think I'm overreacting! My mom keeps saying "we should wait it how, and see how things go." But I was thinking...why should I wait for them to change something, I'm pretty much decided that I'm going to move. :)

I went and visited the other barn, it's pretty awesome! They do not have an indoor yet, and they are still doing a little building work to the facilities (nothing unsafe). But they showed me pictures of what the barn looked like when they moved in in the beginning of the summer, and they have gotten a TON of work done. It was basically a shell, and now they have 9 very nice stalls, a feed room, and a tack room. AND a HUGE outdoor. This is reassuring to me as I have been in places (before I owned a horse) where things were promised (indoor etc.) but nothing every materialized. The fact that they have already gotten so much work done shows (to me anyways) that they are motivated to create a really nice facility and atmosphere. I was shown where the bathroom is going in as soon they can start building again (its hard to do construction in winter here in Maine!). I was also told *tentatively* by a person who rides there about plans to put a covered arena in this summer, but so far I'm treating that bit of information as a rumor, not a fact or promise.

I haven't met the trainer yet, when I visited she was out picking up hay so I was showed around by my brother's girlfriend who rides there.

I think my game plan is this:
Take April to think, have a couple lessons at that barn and look around for other barns (which I am 99.9% sure there aren't any. I'm situated in the exact wrong place in my state for riding, all the good barns are either too far North or too far South. The only other barns are, at least, a solid 30 min drive, which is just too much to do after school 3-4 days a week). Then, I am doing a little schooling show the first weekend of May, and my school gets out almost exactly a month later. So I will decide by around that weekend, and if I am going to move, give them my 30 day notice so that I will move when schools out.

Regarding the 30 days notice: I think the only thing I have to worry about here is being ABSOLUTELY certain that I want to move when I give it to them. I don't think it would go over well if I changed my mind! I also don't think I need to worry about my stuff. However much I dislike the trainer, the owners are still very professional and show very competitively, I don't think they would do anything to my stuff, too much of a risk as I know (and they know) there are several boarders plus my current trainer who would be very angry.

I am also going to figure what their plans are for further renovations, mostly a covered ring/indoor. They trailered to a local indoor for lessons this past winter, but living in Maine, where most of the year is winter, almost winter, and mud season, an indoor is pretty important part of facilities.

Another really cool thing about that they are just across from my county fairgrounds, where there are a number of shows held. They literally WALK to the shows! So cool! They also say there is an ice cream place nearby that you can ride to!

So as I'm heading deeper into 'research' about this barn, as my mom says (she wants me to be 100% certain and have there be no surprises, understandable) i have a few questions.

I plan on definitely having a few lessons with the trainer. Is there any thing that I should look for other than how we get along? I've never really, I dunno, 'reviewed' my trainers, just sorta went along with things. I've never had like an intense, animated trainer like I am told this one is.

Anything that would be a red flag facilities wise? I want to have a more thorough tour, I sorta only got a glance around. What should I look for in fields, barn, stalls, feed/hay storage, tack storage? Anything that would set off your personal 'alarm'?

Sorry for having so many questions Like I said, I consider my self an 'experienced' rider, but I'm a complete noob when it comes to boarding as I have only had my guy a year.

Thanks again

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post #15 of 25 Old 04-02-2013, 10:03 PM
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Personally, I would be gone yesterday. I've been in barns where, if you weren't one of the higher dollar training clients, you didn't get treated terribly well. Sounds like where you're headed in the current barn.

I'd take some lessons with the potential coach and see how you 2 interact, I'd try to hang out for a day at the barn and meet other boarders and see how things sort of flow.

If this trainer at your current barn is truly upsetting people, you will be out in the cold by the time you're talking about moving.

When boarding facilities are at a premium, those who hesitate get left out. I would be getting with it and looking at anything that seems remotely close enough to compare facilities and services, make a decision and then I'd move my horse. I wouldn't be waiting until all the stars line up.

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post #16 of 25 Old 04-02-2013, 10:15 PM
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Visit the barn during times you prefer to ride. The arena can be completely empty mid-morning on a weekday and crazier than crud at 6pm. Great if you want to ride mid-morning, nightmarish if you can only ride at 6pm!

I wouldn't give them a reason for leaving unless they ask. They obviously aren't concerned about keeping their boarders and if you leave under good circumstances, you should be able to come back if you ever needed to.
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post #17 of 25 Old 04-03-2013, 09:41 PM
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Move. That is all.

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post #18 of 25 Old 04-05-2013, 09:38 AM
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I wouldn't give them a reason for leaving unless they ask. They obviously aren't concerned about keeping their boarders and if you leave under good circumstances, you should be able to come back if you ever needed to.
You never need to give a reason. Written notice that says - "Please accept this as my ____ day notice. I will be moving my horse(s) at what time on what day."

If anyone asks for the reason -it can be very vanilla - "The current situation is not working for me."

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I agree with all the others, and I don't think you should wait until the end of April, go and reserve a stall at the new place NOW before your fellow boarders fill them all up. Move; you will be glad you did
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post #20 of 25 Old 04-06-2013, 08:02 PM
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I can see your reservations about making sure that indoor does happen at the new barn, but would still move ASAP. Life's too short to put up with nasty people.

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