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post #11 of 12 Old 04-23-2014, 02:38 PM
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Talk to the BO - I would rode with the horse in the arena, good training for a youngster or you could entice the old devil out with a handful of feed and then shut him out.
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Originally Posted by Sunnylucy View Post
Hi, I'll try to keep it simple, I'm very torn about what I should do though I think in my gut I know.

I am the only boarder at the barn I'm at. The other horses are the owners. The barn does not have everything I would want but it has the type of stall I wanted, a really nice board owner and a ring that was a requirement that I had to have. I supply my own grain, shavings and do my own mucking as well as keeping barn clean. I have a young horse that I need to work in ring. I am always there in mornings until lunch time. Barn owner rides in afternoon so I am out of her way.

Here's the situation. She has an elderly horse and she keeps his gate open into the ring. When I get there he is always in ring and stays there until just about lunchtime. All the horses get fed then and they all know when! He is a wonderful tough old guy and I like him very much. There is no way to get him to move and leave ring if he doesn't want to LOL, he didn't get to his age without being determined. So I really can't use the ring when I'm there so I can't ride. I'm at a crossroads, I want to accomodate her horse as much as possible but I really need to consistently ride mine and it hasn't been happening. She is aware of when I come and is around but makes no effort to bring him in or just keep him out of ring until after I have ridden and then he could be in there all day.

So I feel very awkward and unsure what to do. It's her barn and she has every right to do whatever she wants, but I need to be able to ride. Would it probably be for the best if I just looked for another barn at this point? Is there any point in talking to her about it or would it cause hard feelings like I'm picking on her horse? And how should I approach the conversation? I really try to be understanding about different situations but the one thing I needed to have in a barn I'm unable to use now. Advice would be appreciated, I feel bad about this because I really like the other horse and her.
I understand that you are wary of saying anything critical of your BO. Is there any way you can get him in a pasture? I think you said he was the type who simply did not want to move. Is there any possibility you could ride with him in the ring? Or is he going to get in the way? I would speak as politely to the BO as possible. If she asks you to move on, well, you know where you stand.
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