Fellow Boarder Issues
I think I'll do more venting here than searching for advice lol. Well, I have an issue at the place I board at with another boarder. My barn has never been a drama barn, any issues have been handled quickly and fairly since it's mostly adults save for me(16). This however has taken things to a whole other level.
A lady there is having her life flipped upside down. And the people would love to help if the lady hadn't been rude for the past couple years to them. It's been a build up of problems over the years...she wouldn't come up to work(she works off her board) she would show up drunk, she brought shady people with her, she was insensitive when the BO's mother passed away. She's scammed the BO's out of thousands of dollars when they tried to help other times, so they learned their lesson to not help again.
Back to her life flipping over, she asked the BO's for money. They naturally said no. The lady freaked out, swearing the BO out, making her cry and trying to turn boarders agaisnt them. The BO snapped and said she needed to leave NOW. The lady tried to convince the other boarders to leave after that. Now, none of us want to leave as we love it there, and we don't mind if the girl leaves since she has caused issues with all of us.
Well, I was going to stay out of it since it wasn't my fight. But she continued to message me, post on my wall about leaving and so on. I kept telling her to leave me alone. She never did. Eventually, the issue progressed to her extremely insaulting the BO and the rest of the boarders. I snapped and said "BO has never done any wrong to you or anyone. She doesn't deserve to be treated this way. For her to snap, you must have crossed a major line. Please don't make the situaution worse"
Like I said earlier, I know I shouldn't have gotten involved. But I WILL NOT allow my BO to get attacked like that. The other comments on her status her brutal. Calling her several awful names, saying she should be killed, etc. I was not the only one to comment something like that, actually I was the nicest comment in the BO's favor! But soon after I got messages from her and several of her friends(strangers). They weren't good to say the least, I got called every name in the book of swear words, I was threatned(life, my horse's life) but from her friends only.
I dealt with it by telling her friends "I admire that you are standing up for your friend. But I don't know you and you probably don't know me. So, please leave me alone" I dealt with her by saying one message " I will not stand by and watch you attack BO. She is a fantastic person, and doesn't need people like you doing that to her. I was your last friend there, I was helping you all the time and I was the person you came to for problems. How dare you talk to me like that. How dare you talk to BO like that. I have lost all respect for you. Stop messaging me, and tell your freinds the same thing." That was the last message I sent to her. However, she continued to slam me with messages and so did her friends.
I have since unfriended her and blocked her. I have apoligized to the BO if I caused additional problems. She said I didn't and that it only enforced her actions of kicking her out. My issue is, this lady is crazy...She has had issues like this before and in revenge, has stolen items and hurt horses. My equipment has been photographed, my best things have been taken home. However, I can't take my horse home and the BO's do work elsewhere. I am concerned on my horse's safety. What should I do? I will not apologize to this lady as, with the words she used on me, she doesn't deserve it. So, is there any way I can protect my horse from this lady?
Thanks for the help guys! Please don't yell at me for my actions, I know they stepped over the line but WILL NOT stand by and watch someone I care about getting attacked.