AQHS--Didn't mean to sound insensitive :P It's just interesting to read this after reading threads about horses being threatened or being ridden without owner consent.
OP--It kinda sounds like you already have your mind made up. (: Like I said in my other post: the bottom line is that you are happy. If you don't like the situation, for whatever reason, big or small, then you should leave. I dunno how much board costs there, but I know it costs too much here to be keeping a horse somewhere that you're not happy with. ^^
The sensitivity of the internet baffles me.