Help dealing with new barn...
So I moved my love, Vinnie, to my backyard (where hubby and I rent). The barn owner originally was super nice in accomodating me working off board, and these were the agreements:
I pay a dry stall fee and buy my own hay, shavings, and supplements.
I muck my horse's stall daily.
I do ALL turn out and ALL stall mucking for ALL 5 horses on weekend MORNINGS ONLY.
She would do ALL turn out, turn in, and feeding on weekdays.
I have all of this through email agreement, and have those emails saved. I also signed a boarding agreement, but it didn't include the working off board portion, so that makes things sticky.
Somehow, when I moved in, though, she started expecting me to basically 100% rough board, and do everything for my guy. I don't mind when I am there, but I don't like him being left out because I am late at work and can't turn in...
So I talked to her about it. She said Oh no problem, yes we did agree I would turn out/feed, etc, just communicate with me when needed, no worries.
But I have been getting to the barn every morning and he is still in, so I bring him out, muck his stall. She also has been expecting me to feed weekend AM, clean out water buckets, do all sweeping//general barn cleaning, etc.
I also, just to be nice WITHOUT being asked, mucked all the paddocks outside the other day (even the ones my horse isn't turned into), and instead of a "thank you" I got "oh aharlov, when you muck the paddocks, could you also pick up the dog poop and extra rocks and sticks?"
So this morning... I get there and he isn't out, and she says, "Come on out whenever you are ready in the morning, don't wait around, because I don't think he likes being in the barn alone" so I said, "You can always feel free to turn him out and not wait for me..." and she said "yeah..." seemingly kind of annoyed.
I hate things being so weird. I LOVE him being in my backyard, but how do I confront her without seeming like a bad boarder? I bend over backwards for her when I can, but I beginning to see that she might be taking advantage of that.
I have all the messages saved, and can show them to her if need be. Should I bring it up with her AGAIN? I just don't want to seem crazy. She also went back on her verbal word and is making me keep my hay pellets in my garage instead of the grain room "so it doesn't take up extra space"... The barn is a few acres in front of my house, so a good walk...
Any thoughts are appreciated! Sorry this is such a confusing post, I am trying to type this fast during my lunch break at work!