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post #1 of 7 Old 07-25-2010, 02:09 AM Thread Starter
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How to convince my dad?

Okay, so my friend Cierra keeps her horse at her mom's friend's house and today we were talking, she said how sometimes its like the daughter of the home owner is trying to make her mom not like her and how its weird for her going on trail rides with the owner because of the big age difference and how there is no place to ride because they don't have an arena. We were talking about how she should bring her horse to my house because then we will both have someone to ride with our age, an arena to ride in, and to get our horses okay with new things. My horse, Dozer does not like her horse for some reason so it would be good to get him to where he can ignore the horse he is riding with and focus on what I am asking, Domino would easily help him get over this (I would have my trainer helping me to keep the horses safe) I think this would make me ride a lot more because when she is over we always ride for a long time, during the day its hours and we ride at night too and thats for an hour or so of getting them use to new things. She would pay for her food and stuff like that.

My mom thinks it wouldn't hurt to try this because my dad is always saying how I don't ride enough and this would help and so on but my dad is completely against this. He says he WILL NOT be a horse boarder because he doesnt want to be liable or loose his privacy. Any ideas on what to say to change his thinking? I was thinking of having them sign something saying they had to call if they were planning on coming during the school day or with guests so we could have a heads up and that they have to make sure everything is closed and stuff but I don't know if it is fair for them to have to call before they can see their own horse?

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post #2 of 7 Old 07-25-2010, 03:13 PM Thread Starter
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Any ideas? She has signed a waiver at the place she keeps her horse now and is willing to sign one for us but what to do with the privacy issue?

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post #3 of 7 Old 07-25-2010, 03:35 PM
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Does she not come to visit you now? I'd make sure there are set hours she is allowed to come horse around. As a mother, I'd rather my childrens friends were here than my children at their friends homes. Also, she needs to split barn chores etc...

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I agree with cake mom. If she signs a waiver and please make sure her parents sign a waiver since she is a minor, then make certain hours that she can come. I am not sure why guests would be coming with her, but make hours for that also.
I can understand your dads feelings, once you allow someone other than your own family to board at your home/barn, then you are opening it up to the "public" so to speak and all that entails. Stopping by "just this once" early or late, showing aunt mable her horse, riding early, or making it way to easy to leave you with all the barn work and feeding because "she is busy".
I also think it might be a good way to ruin a friendship between you and your friend, sometimes things like this will put stress on you and your family.
While I understand the good points of this, I really understand your dad. When friends wanted to put their horses in our pasture here at our home, we decided it was not a good idea, you always have to worry about doors being left open, gates opened and when the friend beings a friend or two, you have alot of strangers at your home.
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cakemom: She comes over pretty often but not with her horse, so its always us riding my two horses, which is good because they need exercise and attention but they are use to each other and its nothing new. We already decided that she would muck and keep her tack where it should be and not mess things up. We know that if she comes a lot of our things will probably be used by both of us every so often (brushes and stuff like that probably not saddles unless we ask) and we are fine with that as long as it gets put back.

wyominggrandma:I dont think guests would be very often, probably her parents and or sister. She has one other horsey friend but her horse is at her house. I think the hours would be a good idea to try to bring up with him and see how he likes that idea. If he ends up saying her horse can stay here than I would ask her to call when she is bringing friends so we have a heads up. I doubt she would bring very many friends at the same time because they would only have one horse to ride. I tend to not like people riding my big horse because he is in training and my pony is selective about who he lets ride him and actually be able to control him. She knows that and if her friend really wanted to ride she would ask not assume so I don't think that would be an issue.

Thanks for your opinions and ideas!

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post #6 of 7 Old 07-25-2010, 04:55 PM
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Maybe you can tell you dad that you guys will make up a schedule of work that has to be done and when it gets done. Rules that she will call ahead of time if she is coming unplanned, or bringing a guest. Make a chart of what is used and that it is put back.,etc.
Make is like a regular boarding agreement from a boarding stable and follow it. Then tell you dad it will be for a trial period only(month, 2 weeks, )to make sure it works out before a total commitment is made, and that your dad is the true "manager" and has the final say so with anything to do with the barn/horses.
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I agree with everyone. You should have set barn hours where she is allowed to come and ride. For example, she cannot come after 10pm. A waiver is a necessity, no matter how much you trust her. Make sure that you have things worked out before you even take her horse over. I would suggest a "contract" just outlining basic things.
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