How do you progress when you're shunned?
A few years ago, I bought my dream horse and ever since have boarded her in the BNT's barn in which I found her. I could never afford this trainer's professional services, but simply board her there. We are now gelling well enough when I ride that I feel more comfortable about the idea of showing. My mare could teach me a lot about showing; she won a lot before I got her.
But I know I'd really need a good two-legged mentor, and it's unlikely this trainer would be willing to do so. For months, trainer has pretty much shunned me. It's as though she no longer believes in me or takes me seriously. Every time I've said anything about showing, she just says, "Oh, that horse doesn't need to show." Well, of course the horse doesn't need to show. But maybe I do. And such comments leave me feeling very trivialized.
A few months ago, BNT did something really cra**y to me. It was completely uncalled for and trainer knew would hurt deeply, although I tried not to let it get to me. Until then, I'd thought we were friends. But I guess we weren't as good a friends as I'd thought.
I love my mare to pieces. But owning her is no fun under all the circumstances--and I've not gone into much detail. I'd like to move her, but that's not possible at the moment. I'd like to move her to a barn where I feel like it'd be possible to achieve at least some of my goals. My area is quite horse-oriented, but not toward my breed. And a lot of people (and judges) don't much care for her breed. I'd so like to have congenial barn mates.
It's a looooot harder to pursue your horse goals solo, with totally no one to help you or to refer you, if need be.
Maybe I could just use an encouraging word.
I wasn't sure which heading to put this thread under; it has elements that several headings might cover. If it's in a wrong thread, you're welcome to move it.