I agree with some others that have posted. If you want a trainer to help you in any way, even just through a friendly educational question and answer session, be prepared to pay for their time and don't get angry over her lack of interest in you or your "goals" when you expect expert advice for free.
I also agree with others in that you have not given us enough info to properly judge the situation.
One of the other things you mentioned is that you've had this "goal" since 1976. Personally it seems as though you may be a person who likes to talk the talk but when it gets to be time to actually DO something to reach said goal, you don't follow through. I can see how a trainer could easily see that quality in a person and then basically lack the time of day to even care. JMO.