Perhaps everyone may want to consider cooling out a bit.
The OP posted a question/story that many others would no doubt find intruiging, or at the least have experienced during their boarding time...She expressed her opinions eloquently, did not chew anyone's head off, though some were quite abrupt with her for some reason(?) and kept responding to the questions/statements some presented which made her look as if she had something to prove.
That is the ONE thing I don't understand about this forum. Someone just discusses some simple issue happening in their life, brings up some question which may or may not be "their business" but whatever--it's an INTERNET FORUM, not a HOSTILE WORK ENVIRONMENT...if I think someone is discussing something which is OUTRIGHT rude or inappropriate, I might (*MIGHT*) comment to that end...otherwise I usually move on.
Who here has SUCH a conflict-free life that we need to go seeking out arguments, put others down, attack others for unwarranted behaviors, and the like, ON THE INTERNET? I sure don't!
I know internet gives people this whole "freedom" to be rude to others and "get away with it" where they would not be able to do so in "real life"...doesn't matter...doing unto others doesn't STOP simply because we are on the COMPUTER...there are STILL "others" at the other end of the screen.
I simply love this forum, and nearly ALL the members here regularly have helped me or someone else tremendously at one time or other simply by offering kind and well thought out advice or information. This ugly (IMHO) part of forum life seems SO unnecessary. If you are in a bad, argumentative mood, *perhaps* hold your response to a post that might hurt another until you've had time to decide if it's REALLY worth it to you to comment, and then how you comment maybe will be slightly less...aggressive. Assertive
? That's warranted many times. Aggressive? That can hurt...and we all hurt enough in this life w/o coming to HF to be bullied!
Muppetgirl held her own VERY well, and as I saw it, she had concern for a horse at her barn...something we all have likely felt at one time or other...(HOPEFULLY!). I liked her steady, non-reactive way of responding to some of the snarkier comments here...I probably should not have posted this, but c'mon guys! We can get along! Short of someone writing that they are DOING something IDIOTIC or hurting another person or a horse, do any of us NEED to get ANGRY at their post? Would we act that way were they standing right in front of us? If so, well, then be yourself and go for it; certainly! But if not, then IMO the HF doesn't have any reason to allow us to bring out that part of our personality while we hide behind our computer!
I hope this situation HAS resolved, Muppetgirl, because I agree that it is SO very tough on any horse to be on stall rest 24/7, especially when it isn't medically warranted and there are people there WILLING to make it possible for this sweet sounding horse to get some time out...Yes, this isn't my horse, and isn't my business, but we are all equine "advocates" as horse lovers, and we all KNOW that being enclosed with ammonia vapors from urine (even in the cleanest of barns) and feces in the hooves, (again, 24/7 standing in a stall doesn't allow hooves to dry out fully regardless of HOW clean that stall is!) not to mention being apart from other equines, not running around freely at all(?), (if physically ablebodied enough to do so) and getting blood pumping and just, well, keeping the mind active and "being a horse" is detrimental to all horses, and is only generally acceptable if the medical risk of doing such outweighs that of keeping the horse IN all the time...A horse needs to be a horse, and most of us, I think, agree about that at the least, even if HOW "being a horse" looks to the world may be different in people's minds...24/7 stall rest RARELY looks like "being a horse" to many people.
Just my opinions, and please feel free to disagree, but I appreciated Muppet's post just as I appreciate most all HF posts...Hey-people post about what color tack would look best on their horse! That's great! But let's not rank on a person who isn't saying they are in "charge" of this non-owned horse, but they are simply concerned for it...and wanted some opinions as to why it would be in the position it is, and perhaps, if anyone knew how best to try and educate the owner...not BULLY, not PERSUADE, just educate and allow the owner to make their best decision.
I know a lot of folks say, "If it isn't YOURS, DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT!" and I get that people don't want others MESSING with their horses and having OPINIONS about what THEY do, thus do not like threads like this. But it is human nature to care, and to be concerned, and I do not believe Muppet was "gossipping"...I see her post as genuine, non-intrusive, and not overbearing.
End rant, B2H