I completely understand where you're coming from! I'm selfish with my gelding, I don't want anyone riding him but me! Besides that though, its totally disrespectful and can be damaging to any progress with training. If you usually go to the barn at a certain time (after work or classes) I would try to go at a different time in the day, like earlier or later. Maybe then she won't be suspecting you and you can catch her in the act. Sweat marks are very suspicious especially the girth ones which are easy to pick out. If you see those on a day you haven't even ridden yet, there has to be something up. Good luck!
Just read through this whole thread, and I am glad that it ended well! If she is still texting you I would block her number. No need for that drama.
Friend of mine went through a similar situation a few years ago, but it was the BO letting a 4H kid LEASE her horse without her permission. She found out a few months later when the 4H office contacted her asking her why there were two different kids (her own and the one leasing) registered to show the same horse at fair. How the BO thought that was going to work out and not get caught is beyond me (but she did a lot of other unsavory things as well).
I just found this thread, and read it all through.
First, I've managed facilities, and I've had my share of crazies that I've had to kick out...but *never* had anyone who even attempted to ride another person's horse. At one place, I did have a "loaner tack" section, if you will, and everyone was great about signing out and returning. Most times, it was returned cleaned better than when they borrowed. No one under the age of 16 was left unattended at either facility unless it was previously arranged.
I am so I very happy to see how this turned out, the crazies gone. I wish you, the Bo and other boarders the best of luck...and long term peace!
Secondly, I board my horses out with a wonderful private family. Our family has felt very blessed, having this board situation...but after reading this, it makes me so much more appreciative!!! Think I will be trying to figure out a way to show our appreciation!!!
I have been in a very similar situation. Everyone at the barn loved my horse. I found out through the grapevine that the owners of the place were using him for riding lessons without my permission. I had been wondering why he had sweat marks I didn't make. So I confronted the owners and told them they better not use him again without my permission at least. What if something happened and someone fell off him? Posted via Mobile Device