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    08-14-2014, 12:43 PM
Leaving my barn

I've waited a few days to post this to keep my head on straight. I am not trying to slander anyone, but I need to vent.

It's been very hard ever since I moved my horse to the barn next to my house. It was great location wise, but I was paying a boarding fee, plus providing all supplies, and the barn owner had told me what to do chores wise. It was not rough board, more like semi-rough.

From the second I moved in, she asked much more of me than we agreed on. I was doing about 10 hours a week extra work on top of what we agreed, for HER horses. I obviously wouldn't mind doing stuff for my own guy.

So I was treated like a slave sometimes, then she would slowly take away my storage space. Told me to keep my hay pellets and supplements in my garage, not her barn. Told me that I can only keep 20bales of hay in the loft, not 40 like we agreed on. Then told me that I could no longer keep ANY bedding in the loft at all. She even tried to get me to keep my tack in my garage. Keep in mind, I was paying her a boarding fee..

My horse comes up lame and she tried to get me to return him to his previous owners. I didn't want to.
Mind you- he is an INCREDIBLE horse and the easiest one at the barn to take care of!

Then one of her other boarder's horses broke my finger. (I was leading him in because the barn owner had me cover the chores that day, again, and he reared on me and took off). She never said anything about it, never once asked me how it was, and never told anyone, not even the boarder.

She didn't lighten up the workload either. I finally had to stop picking the paddocks so much because I can't bend the fingers around the wheel barrel handle.

All of this time I am quiet and compliant.

Then one day, I get a text from a friend asking why my horse was inside in the middle of the day. I said I don't know, because I usually do all turn in and I didn't bring him in, and the barn owner KNOWS how I feel about lots of turn out.

So I get to the barn. I'm super angry and kind of stomp around, but no one is there and I didn't yell or anything. I put my horse back outside and text the barn owner asking why he was in and what time he came in.

She lies to me and tells me he just came in (which was a blatant lie because my friend saw him in an hour earlier). I question her and she gets defensive and tells me she heard thunder so she brought him in. I said "oh weird, I didn't hear anything" but I wasn't trying to be rude, just honest.

The next morning I go to muck and tell her hello, and she turns to me and starts swearing at me, "do you think I have nothing f-ing better to do than touch your f-ing horse? The sky was f-ing black!" Blah blah blah
And then tells me I have to leave.

Okay fine. I wasn't happy there anyway. I apologized and told her I got angry prematurely the previous day and didn't realize she was trying to be nice, but yes, the boarding situation wasn't working out.

She has since then trashed me to my friend and I can only assume others. I have been nothing but nice to her since. Every day she asks me when I will be leaving and told me now this morning that she needs more room for her hay in the loft so I have to get mine out.

I am upset, but so ready to go. Only problem is I have contacted every barn in the area I can think of- the ones with good reputations are all full, and the bad ones are scary.. Either unhealthy or my friends have been there and had their horses hit by the barn owner etc.

I have never in 20 years had a problem with boarding or working at a barn. I have references from many people to back that up, for both me and my horse.

My husband asked if this means we will have to sell him. I don't want to. I need to figure something out. Just wanted to vent here.
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    08-14-2014, 01:41 PM
I am so sorry this is happening to you. Not knowing where you will go is un-nerving, but I think it is for the best that you do get out of there!
You could post an ad on craigslist or a local facebook group site asking for board. If you drive around and see a pasture with a few horses in it, you could knock on doors and ask about boarding. There are still options!
Best of luck, keep your chin up.
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    08-14-2014, 01:45 PM
Originally Posted by karliejaye    
I am so sorry this is happening to you. Not knowing where you will go is un-nerving, but I think it is for the best that you do get out of there!
You could post an ad on craigslist or a local facebook group site asking for board. If you drive around and see a pasture with a few horses in it, you could knock on doors and ask about boarding. There are still options!
Best of luck, keep your chin up.
Thanks! I did Craigslist and Facebook groups, and have knocked on a few doors. It seems that places that have stalls available are ones with really bad reputations...
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    08-14-2014, 01:52 PM
Funny how that works. You may have to take a spot at a less reputable one for a bit while waiting on a stall in a better facility if they have a waiting list you can get on.
    08-14-2014, 02:03 PM
Hopefully all my networking has paid off! I had messaged a horse trainer I met BRIEFLY back in October/November 2013. She gave me the number of a person nearby that "knows the local scene"... I gave him a call, and he called me back and said he was on his way out of state but will give me a call back Sunday or Monday with options for boarding nearby!!!!!!

I am hoping this all works out!
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    08-14-2014, 02:23 PM
Dont get lax and wait, keep up your search so you have a few options
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    08-14-2014, 02:26 PM
Originally Posted by churumbeque    
dont get lax and wait, keep up your search so you have a few options
Oh yes I will definitely keep up the search.
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    08-14-2014, 02:37 PM
Have you tried EquineNow Horses for Sale ? I got some leads on there. Do a search for your state/area . Then as you call or visit, if it isnt going to work, ask THEM if they know of any other places. Also, I called some farriers and asked them names of boarding farms they thought were good. They know all the farms.
It turned out that I saw a sign while driving and ended up at that boarding farm, but I got some hopeful leads from equine.now, and the follow up calls.

Good luck. Such a stressful situation to be in,but you will be so very glad to get away from the drama and unfairness

    08-14-2014, 02:53 PM
Call all trainers and vets. On facebook, we have tons of horse related groups, including finding trainers, vets and facilities. I can't imagine it's only in Kansas!
Please keep us posted!
    08-14-2014, 10:39 PM
Thanks everyone for the tips!
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