The first thing, is concerning my purchase of her saddle. Here is what happened. I was just coming from dressage and starting to do hunters, and I had a Kincade saddle that I was just using to start out with. My friend had a Courbette, but she wanted to buy my trainer's Crosby. Trainer wanted more for the Crosby than friend's Courbette was worth. I was somewhat in the market for a new saddle, so I decided to buy the Courbette from the friend, to help her get the Crosby. So at that point, it was agreed that the Crosby would become the friend's, and she would pay the difference in the cost of the Courbette and the Crosby, and I would then owe the trainer the cost of the Courbette.
I made it pretty darn clear when the three of us talked that I could NOT flat out afford to pay upfront for the Courbette. I told them it was dependent on me selling my old saddles, and if they didn't really sell after a couple of months, I would simply have to make monthly payments of $50 at a time. It was agreed and everyone was okay with it. If the money had to be upfront, I would have understood. Quite honestly, I bought the saddle for quite a bit more than it's worth, because I wanted to help my friend out. Feeling it was a rather stupid decision at this point.
I'm not sure when it started, maybe a couple of weeks to a month after this was settled, the friend started dropping little hints about me paying the trainer for the saddle. Each of these times I reminded her that I could NOT pay upfront, and I had told the both of them that.
Well, selling the saddles was a bust and I ended up just giving my trainer my first payment towards it last month with my board - a couple of months after the agreement, exactly as I said I would. But the friend, before and after that payment was made, kept making little comments and little speeches about how I need to pay for the saddle. I'm so irritated, I'm almost ready to break the deal and buy the same saddle cheaper - as I very well could. If I make mention of something I want, she blatantly tells me how I "need to pay for the Courbette first". I'm an adult. When I'm fully holding up my end of the deal as was agreed on, you have no right to tell me what I need to do with my money.
I mentioned something about getting another custom saddle pad for my birthday from my parents - and apparently, my birthday gift is supposed to be my saddle being paid off. Now, while that's not a bad idea really, and would probably be the right thing to do...quite honestly, I never agreed with them to sacrifice my birthday gift to cover the cost of that saddle, and whether or not that's what I should or shouldn't do, you are REALLY overstepping your bounds to tell me what I should have as a birthday gift.
Quite beside the point, the extra paycheck I will get in the month of June, will actually allow me to finish paying the saddle in full if I make my $50 payment for this month. My birthday is also in June...so either way, pay for it myself, or let my parents do it, I can have my cake and eat it too there...no pun intended. Which was my plan.
I've made it more than clear I would like for her to keep her mouth shut about my debt to our trainer for the saddle. I've paid her when and as much as I said I would, and we've all known from the beginning how it would be. Our trainer has no problem with the arrangement, and if she does, she hasn't said anything to me about it. I understand it does lead back to her if I fail to pay for the saddle, and that it is her business, but she's crossed the line as far as I'm concerned. If I hadn't been letting them know what's going on and making payments, it would be different.
The other thing this friend has irked me with, more recently, is our horses at feeding time. They are stalled beside one another. Her horse gets a considerably larger amount of grain, and he's a messy eater. My horse finishes her food, and goes to his side, and eats the food he drops on her side. His feeder is on the wall between their stall.
He's a stall kicker. When my horse stands there right by him while he eats, he kicks the stall. We realized this a while back, and I moved her feeder to the other wall to try to help it. But she's a horse, and she doesn't understand. Apparently, it's all her fault that friend's horse goes lame from kicking. There is nothing else I can do, unless she wants to move his feeder to the back wall so that he won't drop feed on Amber's side.
Her response is to yell and wave at my horse to stop. I'm sorry, don't yell and try to punish my horse for being a horse and figuring out how to get a free snack - she doesn't understand that it's a problem. You can't stand there and stop her every time, and I will be darned if I'm going to. This has now been brought up a couple of times, and I fear it's one of those subjects that is going to continue, no matter how many times I explain it. Sigh. Like the saddles.
I don't think she means to be so asinine. But I'm like...I've TOLD you.
My "plan", is, if she wants to continue about the saddle, threaten to break off the deal and let her take it back. Which I absolutely will at this point. If the feeding issue gets any bigger, I'm just going to see if I can have Amber moved to a different stall. That's just pissing me off the more I think about it.
I apologize for such a long rant. It just feels better to get it off my chest. I'm not the type who wants to go run my mouth and gossip to people in the barn who are involved with us.