Horsemanship starts in the barn... period! Knowing everything about your horse and caring for it is essential. I have a 12 yr old daughter and when she got her first horse it was a foal from one of my mares. She HAD to do the daily care for a long time before she could ride, giving her the skills and understanding she needed to be a good horse owner, well at least the basics. Saddling is still a height challenge but she insists on saddling her own horse and managing her own tack.
We offer full care boarding at the barn I manage but I will not do that for a boarder though some of the trainers who work out there do it for their clients. SMH at not knowing which horse is yours... that is sad.