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        03-06-2012, 08:59 AM
      #31
    Green Broke
    Well I want to commend you for how "adult" you handled the situation with the trainer. However, I'm with the others that I probably would have moved and then had a little chat with her after the fact, just so that you weren't burning bridges and she'd perhaps learn from the situation. Just keep a close eye on your boy, in my experience things tend to change right after you bring something like this up, and then go back to "business as usual" about a month or so down the road :-/
         
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        03-06-2012, 01:13 PM
      #32
    Green Broke
    Thank you, I do feel good about my descision, had a phone call and text every day and she sent me two pictures of both sides this morning. Were we are we can't let the hors out to graze but he's getting hand grazed every day for an hour with the other mare who is having a hard time gaining weight. It's just way to wet and pretty snowy last couple of weeks.

    Like I said I got the bigger picture of her Desiscions and they made more sense of why she was doing them, not excusing her at all but she is young, finding her way, she means well and everyone has to fall once and awhile, not at the expense of my horse but it wasn't a life or death situation (not that'd id ever let it get that far) horse will be horses get hurt, stress out, gain and loose weight, get sore everyone and while. He is doing so much better in just the three days since we had our big talk.

    I will keep you updated and with more pictures this weekend.
    Thanks for your advice, support and just listening as it was such a rough emotional time last week/end and I am feeling so much better.
         
        03-06-2012, 04:28 PM
      #33
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by thesilverspear    
    Reread your post and another thing jumped out at me: you said that the horse would be getting "more hay with dinner" and "a flake of hay with lunch." Quite frankly, I would try to avoid keeping my horse at a place where she didn't have ad lib hay and/or grazing more or less at all times. Especially if I had a horse who is prone to be stressy and lose weight. Free access to hay or grazing is one of the best and simplest ways to keep them healthy and keep weight on, as that's what their GI system is best designed to cope with.

    I hope you've made the right decision but if it were my horse, I'd move. My rule of thumb these days is that when I feel like I need to be my horse's advocate all the bloody time, it's time to bail. The BO/trainer should be on my side when it comes to my horse's care and realise that as the owner, I'm the primary decision-maker for her. If I feel as though I have to confront them about this or that thing, or that they are crossing boundaries on a pretty regular basis, that's a big red flag. Doesn't matter how good their intentions are if it's driving me nuts and my horse isn't happy.

    When I left the barn I described in my previous post, I was concerned the horse would lose even more weight due to the stress of the move (and she had none to lose at that point), but in fact, she was far less stressed the moment she stepped off the trailer at the new barn.
    I agree and I don't understand why so many boarding stables do that. My current stable is unfortunately this way. They give a couple flakes for the am and pm feeding. That irritates me to no end because I also believe free choice hay is the best. They have show horses and are worried about them getting overweight so I'm stuck spending a lot of money buying expensive supplements to add to my grain just because of the lack of hay. I added a flake of hay to my horse's stall once, they had a cow and told me if I wanted more hay I should buy it myself. When I brought her there we agreed my mare was to get as least 3 flakes of hay per meal and they only give her two. Of course this was verbal I should have had it put in the contract. There is no such thing as a perfect boarding place, if I had the land I would have my mare at home.
         
        03-06-2012, 05:02 PM
      #34
    Green Broke
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    Originally Posted by karebear444    
    I agree and I don't understand why so many boarding stables do that. My current stable is unfortunately this way. They give a couple flakes for the am and pm feeding. That irritates me to no end because I also believe free choice hay is the best. They have show horses and are worried about them getting overweight so I'm stuck spending a lot of money buying expensive supplements to add to my grain just because of the lack of hay. I added a flake of hay to my horse's stall once, they had a cow and told me if I wanted more hay I should buy it myself. When I brought her there we agreed my mare was to get as least 3 flakes of hay per meal and they only give her two. Of course this was verbal I should have had it put in the contract. There is no such thing as a perfect boarding place, if I had the land I would have my mare at home.
    A LOT of barns do this actually, mine's one as well. A few of us just end up buying our own hay to add to what they feed so that our horses who are getting worked more than a lot of the others in the barn get enough. Oh well, such is life, and boarding!
         
        03-06-2012, 05:15 PM
      #35
    Green Broke
    My old barn was that way. I think they got 5 flakes per day, luckily Hunter is an easy keeper. Now that he lives at my trainers I have to tease her about feeding him too much lol. She has told me numerous times I can give him as much hay as I want to.
         
        03-06-2012, 10:11 PM
      #36
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Hoofprints in the Sand    
    A LOT of barns do this actually, mine's one as well. A few of us just end up buying our own hay to add to what they feed so that our horses who are getting worked more than a lot of the others in the barn get enough. Oh well, such is life, and boarding!
    I would buy my own if I knew that they wouldn't just feed all mine and none of their hay. I have already had this happen to me in the past. Also spring through fall my horse is in a group and I don't want to have to pay to feed someone else's horses so it's kind of a no win situation. I'm looking for places in my area that feed free choice hay, haven't found any yet.
         

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