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post #11 of 59 Old 12-21-2013, 08:42 PM
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They are great friends, but they are like my parents; don't make a lot of extra money, but she LOVES her horse and could never sell him. She would get a job, but she is only 14 and can't get a job until she turns 15 in May. Once she turns 15 she's planning to get a job and move. But until then, she's in the same situation as I am, with most of the same concerns. I would clean the stalls, but I can't even find a fork to clean with! And the bedding is sawdust… I don't like that. But I just keep telling Duchess (and myself), "Only one more month….".
To be completely honest, even getting a job at minimum wage won't cover all the expenses for a horse. And not many places hire 15 year olds
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post #12 of 59 Old 12-21-2013, 08:44 PM
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Go buy a fork. Or use a shovel. Or a rake. Use what you have. They only cost $8-16 for a basic one. If you can not afford one, you can not afford your horse. I know that sounds mean, but your horse is your responsibility...and your friend's horses is her responsibility.

The thing about owning horses is that you are the sole person in charge of your horse's well being. They depend on us for EVERYTHING. If you and your friend are going to own horses, that means taking the financial responsibility too. If your barn owner won't give you extra hay, find someone and buy hay from them, then bring it with you.

Did you get a contract with this guy? It should say what he is responsible for (such as maintaining property or keeping the stall clean). Point it out to him. He is getting a decent amount of money monthly to keep your horse- he needs to hold up his end of the bargain.

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Rideordie112; I don't have to cover all expenses, just the difference between the board at this place ($225) and the new place ($360), which is $135. My mom and stepdad will cover farrier, and the new place does vaccinations/wormings for free.

Endiku; Just the other day when I was out there, Jay asked me if I watered Chief (my friend's horse) and I said no, and asked why. He said he was asking because it was put into the wrong bucket and that he figured I knew better to do that since he had asked us not to, but he just wondered. My thoughts about this are no, I didn't water him, but what if I did? I thank the person who watered him, because he obviously needed it if his bucket was empty. I don't understand WHY we can't help maintain our horses stalls…..
Granted, the guy is like 800000 years old and has been doing this his whole life, but that definitely doesn't account for this kind of negligence to these horses. My friends parents signed the papers for boarding, so I don't know what all they said (technically, it wasn't my business to be in -.- ).
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If your family is paying the lease fee, it is your family's business. Have your parents ask for a copy of the contract.

Your BO sounds like the BO I was with for a few years....their way or the highway. Its not a good mindset when it comes to horses. It sounds to me like he is just lazy.

If there IS something in the contract saying you can't fill the water or you're that worried about what he'll say...buy your own buckets (go to Tractor Suppy. They're $5 for a nice 5 gallon one), hang them with baling twine or bucket hangers, and fill them with water every day. If YOU buy it for YOUR horse he can't say a single thing, even if he thinks he can. My old BO (who was like Jay) used to try to tell me I couldn't feed alfalfa hay to my horse because it was on her property and it will kill horses (wrong, it does NOT kill horses...especially in moderation) but I fed it anyways. Why? I paid her money for my horse to stand on her property and paid for my own hay/feed. She had no grounds to stand on to tell me no.

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When I get home from my dads house, I'm gonna talk to my mom and stepdad about doing chores around the house to make a little extra money (in addition to getting a job somewhere) to buy a fork and some shavings for duchess until I can buy and move her. I'm also going to talk to jay about supplying my own bedding and sharing or even taking full responsibility for her stall. Do you think she would be okay there if I did that until we bought and moved her?
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Sounds like a good idea. Ask around to see if you can baby sit or pet sit as well, or rake leaves for neighbors, to earn extra cash.

If you can take over her stall, I think she will have a better chance at being okay until you move her, but she still needs moved ASAP (as in...within the next few weeks) because there are a lot of dangers in her pasture. You are very right to be worried.

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It's extremely hard being 15 and seeing my baby girl in those conditions because it's so hard to find a job. I don't know whether to be glad or just as concerned at the fact that she's spending most of her time in the stall due to the snow and rain. But about the job; I'm going to apply at a few places this week and see what happens. Hopefully at least one of the places sees that I'm very mature for 15 and gives me a chance.
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It's extremely hard being 15 and seeing my baby girl in those conditions because it's so hard to find a job. I don't know whether to be glad or just as concerned at the fact that she's spending most of her time in the stall due to the snow and rain. But about the job; I'm going to apply at a few places this week and see what happens. Hopefully at least one of the places sees that I'm very mature for 15 and gives me a chance.
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Unfortunately, businesses just won't employ people under 16, sometimes even 18. There is so much unemployment that the jobs designed for teens are being taken by adults now. Good luck though..
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I've heard that sonic hires at 15, and I know mcdonalds will. And who knows, if I apply somewhere, they may hire me. I got a work permit from my school, which is required for anyone under 16 in Missouri. So hopefully I get something somewhere.
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Good luck and keep us updated :) don't discount the babysitting. If you become CPR certified you can often get great jobs. I'm 17 (18 next week) and paid for the care of a thoroughbred filly and a mini mare 100% on my own for a year and a half (my parents didn't spend a dime) so it is possible...but it takes a LOT of dedication. Babysitting along with my job are what made it possible for me, as well as working for discounted board. Have you asked about that at any stables near you? Maybe you can explain your dilemma and get a $300 boarding place to bring their price down to $225-250 for you in exchange for you mucking stalls or helping feed/turn out horses, tack up horses, etc.

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