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post #11 of 31 Old 01-12-2014, 02:31 PM
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Then I would just explain that you don't want your horse used in lessons or being ridden by anyone without your explicit permission. It's your horse.
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Thank you all for your thoughts, I am going to just let her know that it is my personal horse and she is not to be used in lessons, and if she has a problem with this or takes it upon herself to use my horse anyways I will be on the search for a new barn.
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post #13 of 31 Old 01-12-2014, 03:00 PM
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If she takes it upon herself to use your personal property (horse) without your permission, or worse, against your wishes, you should do more than look for a new barn. She could be in a lot of trouble for doing that.
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post #14 of 31 Old 01-12-2014, 04:11 PM
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Yikes! I don't know any BO hat would even ask to use someone's personal horse as part of their business without offering compensation.
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post #15 of 31 Old 01-19-2014, 09:47 AM
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Not under any obligation. The only thing she said about using her was if she absolutely had to use her because the other lesson horses were being used or at a show or something she could ask to use her. Key word ask. But she has recently been asking me if she could steadily use her in lessons and let one girl show on her, the showing is a for sure no. The lessons are also a no. I guess I will just let her know that I'm not okay with that, there really isn't a 'nice' way to say it.
Yes it's going to be a little tough telling her that no one can use your horse but you have to do it. No one touches any of my horses, including my lesson horses without my express permission & training. It doesn't take very long for a beginner to ruin and un-train your horse. Just think-she's making money off your horse and what are you getting out of it !?
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post #16 of 31 Old 01-19-2014, 10:06 AM
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Honestly? I'd probably go about looking for a new barn anyway. It would make me really uncomfortable if the barn owner was ballsy enough to use random boarded horses in lessons without monetary compensation for the owners. I also wouldn't be surprised if she used your horse without your knowledge if she was in a bind. If you really want to stay at this barn I'd tell her that YOU are the only one to ride your horse so as not to interfere with his training. If she does anything other than say "ok, that's fine!" Then I would say that you don't have to explain yourself, and that legal action will be brought upon anyone that rides her without your permission.

I had a similar issue in high school. The therapeutic riding lady asked if she could use my horse in lessons because he's fairly quiet. I said no because he's in full work and training. She then started the "oh, well it's not that much extra exertion, and they can tell the difference between the therapeutic lessons and real training so it won't interfere..." And I said "no, I just don't want him to be used." She did mention from time to time how great he would be for the program, but since I was blunt with her she did not ask again.
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post #17 of 31 Old 01-19-2014, 05:06 PM
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I wouldn't just tell her no, I'd leave. The fact that she even asked in the first place means that if she can't get in touch with you to ask if she can use your horse, she'll use it without permission. I would be sooooo outta there!
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post #18 of 31 Old 01-19-2014, 05:40 PM
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The whole situation sounds strange to me. I don't know that I'd be comfortable at a barn like that. Doesn't sound like a normal situation at a boarding facility.

If my BO wants to use someone's horse for lessons she would ask, draw up a contract, and give reduced board in exchange. However, even this isn't normal. I haven't ever heard of her asking (doesn't want people feeling obligated)... instead people offer their horses and she assesses them to determine whether they are lesson horse material.

If someone wanted to show my horse they would lease the horse from me (and my BO would point them in my direction of they were interested.

I'm with those who would look for a new barn. Just... too strange. The fact that you feel like you have to be careful about how you tell her she can't use your own horse makes me feel like you are not comfortable there.
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post #19 of 31 Old 01-19-2014, 09:50 PM
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I would say "no". If you're worried about sounding nice why don't you just say exactly what you told us? It was very simple and clear, just make sure if you repeat it that you don't imply there is room for debate.

I don't let anyone ride my horse. One of the others, maybe, but not my personal horse is my horse. Maybe I am a snob but he's my horse and I don't want other people riding him. Yes I could go into detail, but there is no need.

If she does use your horse demand some sort of compensation.
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post #20 of 31 Old 01-20-2014, 06:35 PM Thread Starter
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She got the message that my horse was not to be used, and she hasn't been used so I think I'll just continue to be very blunt with her as that seems to be the only way to the message across to her.
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