I'd like to start off by saying that most of the barn hands where I board do an exceptional job at taking care of the horses, and I don't take that for granted.
However, one of them, we'll call him Joe, has been practically all over me since about a month before I bought my horse. He started out just being friendly when we happened to cross paths, so it wasn't an issue. Since then it's progressively gotten worse to the point where he's trying to help me with EVERYTHING. He doesn't follow me around necessarily, but any time I'm within sight or earshot he's there within seconds.
Again, at first it wasn't a problem. It was maybe once a day, opening a gate for me or just petting my horse for a few seconds then moving on. Now it's at least four times a day, but much more often on days that I work for my trainer. It's gotten so bad that he actually causes problems by holding me up when I'm busy, insisting on helping but doing it wrong so I have to spend time fixing it, or otherwise just getting in the way. I realize he means well, but his "help" is getting in the way of my job and personal time with my horse.
I was putting dressage boots on one of the training horses and Joe happened to walk by. He insisted on helping, so I agreed. He put the boots on his side on backwards, so I had to go back and do them over again.
I had just started training Sock to lunge again, and Joe was watching us from outside the arena. When I stopped Sock to send him the other way, Joe comes in, interrupting the session and entirely defeating the purpose of the exercise, which was to get him to focus on me. He stood there petting Sock for two minutes or so, trying to make awkward conversation with me, then finally left so we could continue.
Sock is just getting used to blanketing. As of a few weeks ago, he's been pretty good about it, but every now and then he balks a little. The other day he was putting up a bit of a fuss while I was trying to take it off, so I put his halter on as an aid just in case. Joe shows up, offers to help, I tell him we're okay, but he steps in anyway. He proceeded to grab the halter by the top of the nose and hold it fairly tightly, scaring my horse even more. I quickly got the blanket off and the ordeal was over, but I really wasn't happy about what had just happened.
Things like this happen on a daily basis now, usually a few times a day. My trainer has three new horses starting in January. I'll barely have time to do things the right way, let alone fix his mistakes after this week. I'm also not happy that he's interrupting my horse's training program and I'm sick of feeling uncomfortable at the barn.
So the question is what the heck do I do about it? Should I go to the BO or talk to him directly? If the latter, how the heck do you tell someone who's taking such good care of your horse (in the way of feeding and cleaning at least) that you don't want their help?