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post #11 of 20 Old 07-24-2013, 03:07 PM Thread Starter
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Boy, that sounds like fun place to keep your horse, NOT! Rant heard, now get the hell out of Dodge & don't look back.
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EXCITING NEWS!!!!!

The barn I've been looking at just called me back saying they have space available for the type of board I am wanting and that I can come tour it on Friday.

THANK GOODNESS. <3

Maybe I can get the hell out of Dodge now. lol
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post #12 of 20 Old 07-26-2013, 06:48 PM Thread Starter
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More good news. <3 Put down a deposit on a new barn. So I will be leaving cruddy barn by the end of August.
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post #13 of 20 Old 07-26-2013, 07:12 PM
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Phew!!! Glad to hear that Dodge is soon to be in your rearview mirror!
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post #14 of 20 Old 07-26-2013, 09:41 PM Thread Starter
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Yes, thank goodness!
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post #15 of 20 Old 07-28-2013, 07:49 PM
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That sounds like the same situation I was in. I was totally frustrated with everything that I almost gave my horse away. Then I met a mediator at a tack exchange and she helped me renegotiate my contract so it is far. Everything was worked out fairly and now I'm doing okay. Her name is Kym and she runs justmediationinc.com. Look her up and see if she can help you. You have rights.
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post #16 of 20 Old 07-29-2013, 11:27 AM
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I completely agree with you! I just wish the BO saw it the same way, as there are no other feasible hours for my horse to be worked. I just finished the interviewing process for a different job. If I get those hours, I am not sure how I'm going to see my horse at all at this barn.

I've been trying to push the issues I've had with the BO, but if I've got my mind made up that I need to go, then that's just what I need to do and I don't want her to be treated unkindly in the meantime.

If your mind is already made up on moving, I wouldn't press any issues. Its just a matter of time until something opens up else where. I wouldn't make things worse then they already are for you.

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post #17 of 20 Old 07-29-2013, 01:54 PM
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Bosshoss I am glad you are moving barns and hope the new one is everything you want.
Now allow me to advise you.
We all teach others how we will allow them to interact with us. You allowed the other BO to dictate how and when you can ride, pet, and interact with your horse. You gave her an inch and she took a mile . She had no respect for you and abused your good nature.
I will assure you that the BO would have moved my horse only once. After standing up for myself, She would never have thought she could tell me not to pet my horse or give him treats. Do you see the pattern here?
Stand up for yourself or you will repeat the pattern again in your life.
I fully understand the anxiety issue and the desire to avoid conflict but you deserve respect not someone who is taking advantage of your good nature. Shalom
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post #18 of 20 Old 07-29-2013, 02:14 PM
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I completely understand how you feel! I have experienced similar problems at a yard I was at for 2 years! To be very honest im not sure how I lasted that long!!! Youve just got to think that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and look forward to leaving when you can! Until then its a good idea to just get your head down and try and focus on your horse as much as you can and its welfare! You will get through it in the end!! x
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post #19 of 20 Old 08-07-2013, 02:34 AM Thread Starter
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Bosshoss I am glad you are moving barns and hope the new one is everything you want.
Now allow me to advise you.
We all teach others how we will allow them to interact with us. You allowed the other BO to dictate how and when you can ride, pet, and interact with your horse. You gave her an inch and she took a mile . She had no respect for you and abused your good nature.
I will assure you that the BO would have moved my horse only once. After standing up for myself, She would never have thought she could tell me not to pet my horse or give him treats. Do you see the pattern here?
Stand up for yourself or you will repeat the pattern again in your life.
I fully understand the anxiety issue and the desire to avoid conflict but you deserve respect not someone who is taking advantage of your good nature. Shalom
I was more concerned that she'd tell me to leave, and I had no back up plan on a new place to go. (All surrounding barns were too expensive or full. ) :) Good advice, of course.
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post #20 of 20 Old 08-07-2013, 02:36 AM Thread Starter
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I completely understand how you feel! I have experienced similar problems at a yard I was at for 2 years! To be very honest im not sure how I lasted that long!!! Youve just got to think that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and look forward to leaving when you can! Until then its a good idea to just get your head down and try and focus on your horse as much as you can and its welfare! You will get through it in the end!! x
Moving barns on the 30th. It can't come fast enough!

I have had several ex-boarders get in touch with me and express that they felt the same and were so glad to leave. lol. Glad I wasn't alone!
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