Originally Posted by DraftyAiresMum View Post
Point being, no matter how you do it, the BO will probably be upset and take it personally. So, don't get yourself too worked up over how to break it to her.Posted via Mobile Device
I am pretty sure she will take it personally. She is a control freak, in my business all the time, telling me what I should and shouldn't do with my horse... so when I say I'm taking him away, she will probably give me 100 reasons why it's not a good idea, what I'd be doing wrong, why it would be unfair for my horse, and so on and so fourth. She will make me feel like a bad person, I guarantee it.
This is one of the main reasons I want to leave. I'm sick of being treated like I don't know what the hell I'm doing. I can grin and bear it, ignore most of the stupid stuff I hear, I'm not easy to hurt. The other issues are the unfair workload, and the herd situation. Currently, all of the horses are kept together in one big pasture. Not that big of a deal, but my horse is the low guy, every other horse picks on him constantly. He isn't allowed at the hay feeder, they run him off the troughs, he is the last to come in the barn, he is harassed in his stall by his neighbors, the geldings beat him up when the mares are in heat... it's just sad. And now, he is developing this guarded, leave me alone kind of attitude. It breaks my heart, he is such a sweet boy, I hate seeing him like this.
Skys, I know what you mean about not making it personal. It's like I said, I don't want to bring up all this stuff that I have been dealing with in silence because I don't think it would be fair to pile it all up at once. The opportunity for me to say "Hey, I don't like how you do this..." is gone. I don't want to make it about that either, I want to stay positive and friendly and get out without too much of a fuss.
The new barn will be a much better place for us. The turn out situation is better for my horse. They do small groups instead of one big, every horse for themselves herd. The barn owner is a professional horse person, she is on site 24/7 (unless she is at a show). My current BO works outside of the home and carts her child around to 4-5 different activities all week long. The horses are mostly left to me and her non-horse person boyfriend... just another eyebrow raising issue. Anyway, the new barn will also offer a lot more advancement for me as a rider. It is an eventing barn, so I can finally start taking dressage lessons. It's just a better choice for all kinds of reasons.