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        03-27-2013, 08:49 PM
    Green Broke
    I don't know if I dare say this (it has been discussed in previous threads) but...what are you thoughts on moving your horse earlier and you staying on a bit longer to give proper notice? The rationale is that 1) if things turn nasty, your horse is safe and out of the picture (think barn owner locks up and steals my horse stuff) 2) staying on shows you have no real animosity to her and helps her out until she can make other arrangements (think burning bridges stuff).

    Skyseternalangel post (#9) with exerpts of your reasons is a great way to "explain" your leave.

    Good luck.
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        03-29-2013, 05:36 AM
    Hmmmm, more reasons for me not to board.
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        03-29-2013, 06:08 PM
    As a BM myself I always hate to see good boarders go but I understand when things are not working out as well. Things happen and circumstances change. Explaining this is a better situation for you and your horse is a great way to handle it. It is in fact a better situation. I wouldn't bring up any of the other stuff, just be matter of fact with her. It sounds like she will have animosity no matter how you handle it but this way may minimize your own anxiety.

    This is the kind of thing I hate to hear about. Your time with your horse is supposed to be your and your horse's happy time, not stressful. Hoping the best for you at your new barn.
        04-02-2013, 01:05 PM
    Well, that's that. My BO sent me a nice nasty gram this morning about board being due on the first (I had to work yesterday, she knew this), and everyone else has their expenses taken care of, why can't I get it together, why should Riley be an exception... What a wench. Why do I work so dang hard for her then? Why am I there 3-4 days a week busting my butt to keep her barn clean and take care of her horses? For fun? Oh yeah! I'd rather clean up poop for 3 hours and take care of her animals rather than spend time with my own horse.

    I was nice about it. I told her I would be leaving in two weeks, I said it would work out best for me and my horse, I would have more free time to spend with him since I wouldn't have to work, I didn't say anything hurtful, told her I'd pay half my board this month, and keep my cleaning schedule til then.

    Of course, she is really mad. She wants more money from me other than a half month's board. She claims I owe for hay, but we had previously agreed I would be working for it. She also wants money for the wormer she has been giving to my horse, but it wasn't even hers to begin with. Another boarder was on the same rotation as her horses, but when she left, she told me I could have the remaining doses. So that's total crap.

    My only problem is, I don't have a dang thing in writing. It's my fault for trusting this woman's word. I hate being that cynical person, I wish I could just believe that people are honest and fair. Apparently no one is. After all that I have done for her, all the hours of work above and beyond what I needed to do... It just doesn't mean anything to her. Nice to know how she really is. I kind of knew it all along though, she never appreciated me.

    Ugh! So now I'm paying out the nose to make her happy, I still have to clean for two weeks, hopefully my horse will be okay and not sabotaged in any way, and all of my tack will be there when I go to pack up.

    On another note, I am so happy to move next weekend. I talked to my friend/new BO today on the phone and she is just as thrilled as me. We have known each other for years, so I know what I'm getting into there. I am looking forward to being in a positive, productive environment and being able to move on with Riley's training. Obviously, this time I will have everything in writing, down to the last, tiny, insignificant detail. Good friends or not, it's still her place of business and I'm still a customer. I'm making sure my butt is covered from now on.

    Soon, it will all be over and in the past. Just wish me luck for these next two weeks. I really hope she doesn't try anything stupid. Should I be writing up an agreement for what I owe her to leave? Some kind of cost break down? Couldn't hurt, I suppose.
        04-02-2013, 01:26 PM
    When I have moved my horse, I've given the required notice, paid the amount I owed the moved early. If you're paid up in full then it doesn't matter when the horse goes really.

    I'd pay up in full through whatever date you're obligated to her and I would move the horse ASAP.
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        04-02-2013, 01:33 PM
    Get all your gear out of there - time to give it a good cleaning. That way you're not trying to find anything she might feel she's entitled to hang on to. Of course she's mad, she's losing her barn slave. Now she'll have to do it until she can locate another.
        04-02-2013, 02:15 PM
    You don't have anything in writing and surprise, neither does she.
        04-02-2013, 06:00 PM
    Green Broke
    Originally Posted by Saddlebag    
    You don't have anything in writing and surprise, neither does she.
    A keen and useful observation, Saddlebag.
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        04-07-2013, 01:08 AM
    Just an update.

    This nightmare is almost over, thank God. I have less than a week before I am moving to the new barn, all of my tack and supplies (minus my halter, lead, and grooming tote) are there already, his stall is ready and waiting... I just have to stick it out 'til Friday.

    My soon to be old BO hasn't spoken a word to me since last Wednesday. She got what she wanted, which was FULL board (no discount for cleaning), money for hay, and money for the wormer which she claimed she would pass on to the old boarder. She sent me all kinds of awful, irate, irrational text messages until I just couldn't stand it anymore. I was trying to put together some kind of case to bargain with her, but I decided it wasn't even worth it. You can't reason with someone like her. I didn't want to make things worse, God knows what she would have tried to pull next.

    So now, I'm just counting down the minutes until I can leave. I can go anytime I please, I just have to pay board at the new barn, too, and because of the astronomical bill I got from crazy pants, I can only afford to pay a prorated amount at the new place. I hope she is happy with herself. I hope she can sleep at night knowing she robbed me to the point where I won't be able to buy groceries for a month.

    She went from calling me her honorary sister and having her daughter call me Auntie... From trusting me with all of her horses, to feed them, to be there for their vet and farrier appointments when she couldn't make it... From hugging me and bawling when her mother was sick in the hospital and she had no one to turn to but me... From saying she loved me like family...

    To this. Screaming at me, demanding unfair amounts of money, threatening to take me to court, telling me I should be ashamed of myself, that I am not trustworthy, that I am hurting my horse by taking him away from his friends, that I don't care about what's good for my horse, that I used her... I'm just at a loss for words at this point. She has lost her ever loving mind. And an excellent boarder.

    I am just praying that she isn't standing there breathing down my neck on Friday while we are trying to load Riley. He isn't the best when it comes to trailering, he likes to be stubborn and not get on. I don't need any more stress or distractions during that event. Luckily, my friend who is helping me is a pro, trailers to shows every weekend, works with horses of all temperaments... I'm just crossing my fingers and saying my prayers that we get out of their quickly and smoothly.
        04-07-2013, 01:18 AM
    I'm so sorry, QHH. :-/

    My old BO watched from a distance when I loaded Aires to go to our new barn. Aires hadn't been trailered since he was a weanling (he'll be four on May 7), so the BO was expecting a rodeo. He was sorely disappointed when Aires hopped right on the trailer like he'd been doing it forever. My best friend said that be griped about the lack of a show for days after I left.
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