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post #1 of 10 Old 07-01-2012, 10:24 PM Thread Starter
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Question unhappy at a friends barn, do I move?

I bought a horse last december and started to board her at my friends place. She charges $180 a month plus feed, she has a stall for the winter (but they don't clean it properly, they leave all the wet shavings and make everyone else clean it that way too), no blanketing, round bales outside, strict rules, no arena just trails, they deworm, and make evryone use the same farrier. I feed and do stalls once a week to keep the board lower. Sadly my mare had to be put down in april. They were very nice about keeping a stall for me (not that they could have filled it anyway) with out charging me until I got another horse. They end of may I got another mare, but she was barely green broke. As there is no arena I find it hard to train her to do more then a walk. I think I should have lessons to help us but I am not aloud to have a coach come to the barn. So I want to move barns because they keep giving me a hard time about things. And my new mare is a little arab and the round bale feeders give her sores on her neck because she is short and her halter rubs on her face, but they wont do anything about it and they make her wear her halter 24/7. They cut a lot of corners. The stable where I have lessons charges $300 out door board (which is better for my mare because she cribs if inside), plus feed, they have round bales, indoor and outdoor arena, trails, jumps, coaching, blanketing, and I really like it there. But if I leave my friends barn I feel it will take a toll on our friendship, but I am not happy there. And I need her schooled properly because I will be using her for some of my university courses so I NEED her to be farther along in training. My friend is only 17 and thinks she knows it all but is wrong about a lot, and the other barn the lady is really experienced and I trsut her way more. What would you do?
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post #2 of 10 Old 07-01-2012, 10:42 PM
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I'd move. Your horse needs training, you need lessons. The place you're at doesnt provide your wants and needs. It may get ugly and be high drama but the move is for what's best for you and your horse.
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post #3 of 10 Old 07-01-2012, 11:31 PM
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Just be like 'listen my mare needs the training and I very much so need a ring to start her training and I would like to take lessons as well so therefore we are moving barns. No harsh feelings we just need a ring so I can start her training'

Just use the 'I need a ring to train her excise' what're they gonna say? No you're not leaving ? Uhm too bad! Lol
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post #4 of 10 Old 07-01-2012, 11:38 PM
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I would move it dose not matter who owns the barn it is not right for you at this time you need more help them the barn can give you

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post #5 of 10 Old 07-02-2012, 12:41 AM
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Move. If you aren't happy with how your horse is or their living conditions, or what you can do with your horse is restricted.. then you are better off moving :)
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post #6 of 10 Old 07-02-2012, 07:55 AM
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You knew that place didnt meet your needs. Yet you went out and got another horse and brought there. Hello,
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post #7 of 10 Old 07-02-2012, 08:52 AM
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Run away and run away fast! Find a barn that will suit you and your new horse. It's hard to separate business and friends, that's why I rarely do business with friends.
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post #8 of 10 Old 07-02-2012, 09:27 AM
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You knew that place didnt meet your needs. Yet you went out and got another horse and brought it there.,
I don't always agree with Joe, but I do this time.

You're trashing your friend's horse keeping skills and her place, but brought another horse there knowing what it was like? That's entirely your own fault. It's also your fault that you stayed there with your previous horse.

Move your animal where you'll both be better suited, and stop talking garbage about this other person. You may not like how she keeps horses, but you're guilty of the same thing by staying there.

You want the truth? You can't HANDLE the truth!
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post #9 of 10 Old 07-02-2012, 10:47 AM Thread Starter
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My first mare I had the place was fine for her, since then they have dropped their standards. I wasn't talking trash about her I am merely stating what's going on. I wouldn't have brought my new mare there considering her training but we had already made an agreement that I would bring my new horse there. I hadn't planned on getting a very green horse it's just how it worked out. Thanks for input everyone, it helped.
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post #10 of 10 Old 07-02-2012, 02:46 PM
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it depends if you find a better price at a different barn for boarding! and if you cant you might just stay and fix what you dont like:) but i hope you figure this out!!
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