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        07-02-2012, 11:49 AM
      #11
    Trained
    Well, again, you should not be the one who's feeling bad. They've had free board and care for 2 horses for almost a year, that's a pretty darn good deal for them. Friends or no, I would NEVER have cared for those horses for free for more than 2 or 3 months, that is WAAAAAY over the bounds of friendship and into abusing the friendship, IMO.
         
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        07-02-2012, 11:51 AM
      #12
    Weanling
    Thanks for the support folks. It does make me feel some better and that I'm not being unreasonable. Hopefully we are good enough friends to get over this. I'm thinking I might be learning a lesson here. Sometimes maybe a good thing can backfire on you, no matter how you try.
         
        07-02-2012, 11:55 AM
      #13
    Trained
    LOL, just remember, "No good deed goes unpunished.".
         
        07-02-2012, 12:17 PM
      #14
    mls
    Trained
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Silent one    
    After the accident happened with my sister's show horse, I did put everything back the way it was, the same horses went back out in the 48 acres that were there before (after we fixed the fence where a tree fell on it). And all was fine, I thought, until Spirit got her jaw broke.
    Please keep in mind that a broken jaw is the result of a kick. Consider where the horses head was in relation to the hoof . . .

    Yep - likely the show horse was doing the chasing . . .

    All in all possible the show horse is responsible for the injuires. Protecting 'her' turf.
         
        07-02-2012, 12:25 PM
      #15
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by mls    
    Please keep in mind that a broken jaw is the result of a kick. Consider where the horses head was in relation to the hoof . . .

    Yep - likely the show horse was doing the chasing . . .

    All in all possible the show horse is responsible for the injuires. Protecting 'her' turf.
    The show horse was not out in the 48 acres with the other horses. At the time that Spirit got kicked, the show horse was gone, my sister took her home after she got hurt. The show horse is very timid of other horses, and was the one that either got run through a fence or something and got her chest ripped open.
         
        07-02-2012, 03:26 PM
      #16
    Yearling
    I don't think there is anything you can do to make it easier/better. There horse injured to of yours (well.. you familys anyways), and the vet told you to remove dangorous horse from herd asap, there is not much you can do.

    You are being very genorous in giving them free board! I havnt heard of many people doing so. I keep my horse at a friends, and even they charge me . My boyfriends family is planning to buy a farm in 2 years, and build a barn etc, and they told me I could keep my horse there but I need to pay for his food etc.

    I know its hard, I recently went threw almost the same thing, my horse beat the crap out of another her, and then started chasing others around, trying to corner them, and kick them, for no apparent reason. He was immediatly moved to a feild on his own (i know you don't have the land for it), neither my horse, or I are overly fond of the new living arrangments, but he can still see and smell other horses over the fence, so for the time being, he's on his own. You godda do what you godda do. I don't like the arangments, but I also realize that, I can't risk him seriously hurting the horse again.

    Your friends are moveing there horses soon, hopefully this wont affect your friendship. The best I can say is, call them after the horses are moved and make sure you keep contact. Also explain to them that its not persinal against them, or there horses, but everyones safety has to be taken into consideration.

    You could offer to let them talk to the vet themselves to if that would help
         
        07-02-2012, 03:37 PM
      #17
    Weanling
    Thanks Angie, for a good idea. I will offer to let them talk to my vet. They are new to horses so perhaps don't understand the potential problems that can be caused by an aggressive horse.
         
        07-02-2012, 10:24 PM
      #18
    Showing
    Bottom line: They took advantage of you and delayed putting the fence up. Horses got hurt because the herd doesn't go well together, and something needs to happen NOW before it gets worse.

    Get it all down in writing, have them speak with your vet (make sure it's alright with the vet first) and keep it all business.
         
        07-03-2012, 12:46 AM
      #19
    Foal
    You sound like a very caring person and a wonderful friend; I hope things settle down with the situation soon. You mentioned that they are new to riding and horses in general. Is it a good idea for them to try and keep the horses themselves? Would a safer alternative be for them to board at a place where experienced horsepeople can keep an eye on things. I'm sure they mean well but realistically it never ends up well when there is a lack of knowlege. . .
         
        07-03-2012, 08:56 AM
      #20
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by stephshark    
    You sound like a very caring person and a wonderful friend; I hope things settle down with the situation soon. You mentioned that they are new to riding and horses in general. Is it a good idea for them to try and keep the horses themselves? Would a safer alternative be for them to board at a place where experienced horsepeople can keep an eye on things. I'm sure they mean well but realistically it never ends up well when there is a lack of knowlege. . .
    They don't live very far from me and I won't leave them on their own. I'll be right here.

    On a good note, they called last night and seemed to be ok, they said they are not mad and they understand. So hopefully all of this will end well. I was pretty worried yesterday, both about the situation and about losing a friendship. Thanks everyone for your support!
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