I have to commend you. If I were in this situation I would have been fed up months ago. I would have built a fence for them after the first incident and charged them for labor, and both vet bills on top of board and trailering fees. I'm the first person to help a friend out when they need it but the second I'm taken advantage of my 'mini' busts out has a body count, she's very hard to control on most occasions.. But you seem like the kind of person that everyone wants to be friends with if you're patient and generous enough to deal with people like that for that long and not eat them. I just hope they realize what they're loosing my letting their egos get in the way of your generosity and friendship.
Thank you for your post, what a nice compliment!
In general, I really genuinely LIKE people, most all people. And I try really hard to "put myself in their shoes" most of the time. I know that all people have different perspectives on things. And sometimes what one person says is not what the other person hears or understands. So I try really hard to think things through rationally and calmly, most of the time (except for my mini, she ain't the least bit rational)
Anyhow, friends seem to be ok now. I just kind of kept explaining my situation and why I feel the way I do. I told them, its not my fault, its not your fault, its just something that happened. If the horses could have safely all stayed out in the 48 acres I probably wouldn't have cared if they stayed here free forever. So they have signed the contract and are even coming over in the evenings to help clean stalls and feed! Yay!
And you know, I really needed to get to the roots of my own upset too. My mom came in from WV yesterday and we had a long talk, during which I ended up almost incoherently sobbing. I think the whole "aggressive horse" thing has just brought back a horrible situation in which my heart horse was killed by an aggressive horse. That was probably three years ago but I still can't bear the pain and grief, and I think that has a lot to do with why I am upset too.