I just needed to rant and get all of this out of my system because I'm fearing explosion at the moment.
I board my two horses at a little place that I love and I work there as well, it's not big and fancy but I love it to death. Among the few boarders that come out though is a lady that I cannot stand. I do not get involved in drama, I avoid it at all cost and like to enjoy my horses by myself or with a few people that I like. In the beginning of her being there I would simply nod and walk away, trying to be pleasant even though I detested her know it all ness and narcissism. (To top it all off she's a Natural horsemanship extremist who honestly believes she's psychically connecting with the horses). Soon however she began to order me around like I was her groom, 'teach me' about things that my boss was teaching me to do correctly, and even interrupting my dressage instructor who came out to tell her how to teach me. Many times when I was fixing fencing in an empty field she would turn horses out and then proceed to stand over me as I did my job, like I'm a devious person out to maim horses. When I would bring up my gelding (who's spooky and isn't really a fan of new people at first) she would do 'pressure points' to 'ease' his worrying without my consent and ignore my 'no's..... and freaked him out so bad I couldn't get him into the barn easily for a few weeks. Whenever I ride she would come over, and instruct me on what I was doing wrong (for instance my mare doesn't cue with any leg, she hates it) and verbally berate me for being cruel and immature with my riding. I talked to my boss (who's the BO) about all this and more that she had been doing towards me and my horses and my boss talked to her and things went easy for a while.
I went out a few weeks later and saw the lady out there working a horse in the roundpen using her natural horsemanship. I didn't think two things of it and was going into the barn to sit while my mom went and got my mare when I poked my head out the door to see her working our gelding (the skittish horse). He was dripping in sweat and my mom gave her a talking to and brought him up. This lady's excuse was that he 'wasn't working enough' and 'she wanted to desensitize him' for us. Putting it this way he is as good as he is ever going to get. And he does not understand the whole, natural horsemanship, games, etc method. It freaks him out five ways to sunday. She backpedaled when my mom kept telling her what a raft of crap that excuse was so she said that the BO had told her to work him. I've known the BO longer than she has and there is no way that she would tell her to work a horse, especially one that wasn't hers and she didn't have permission to. We asked the BO and she gave her a talking to.
Now at this point the woman began making comments to us, other boarders, and clients as well as to vets and farriers about how we mistreat our older mare. She's 20 years old and I still ride her fine, she's a good weight for her age, has no health problems and is just as grouchy as ever. She has never like to canter and it's not because of a health problem just her personality so she pins her ears every time. The 'horse whisperer' as she's dubbed herself began to yell at us because we have not had a chiropractor out, put her on massive supplements, stopped riding her, etc, etc. I just tuned her out and went on with my life. I've been injured so right now I go out when I feel good with my mother and just visit with my old mare. We got there and lone behold there was said woman, poking and prodding on my mares back and irritating the crap outta her. When we came in and saw that we both went livid. She then had the gall to give us a chiropractic bill from her chiropractor that was over $300 for a checkup which lone behold: nothing was wrong.
We found out afterwords from the doc that she had worked my horse using her NH methods for well over an hour. There was a bit of a conversation between me, my mom, the lady, the BO and the BO's husband (who both just got back home in time for this debacle) about leaving other peoples horses ALONE. We threw the bill back in her face and the woman was told if she touches our horses again she would be thrown off the property, and my mom would be filing a civil complaint against her with the police.
Since then we've had no further altercations with her and our horses (she still claims we abuse them though) and she still treats me like her personal groom and the insect on her boots underside but I'm pretty good at staying the heck outta her way and being pretty blunt and to the point with her when she does decide to corner me into a conversation. (I'm almost always pleasant and calm, I'm not turning into a raving loony yet! lol) I just needed to vent before I hit that final step!
If anyone feels the need, please tell me I'm not overreacting to this.