Now, a year later, I get a text every morning with a list of things that need done. Some days, I am left with everything. My BO is a busy lady, I understand. Her and I are actually pretty good friends. Now days, however, I feel like she relies on me TOO much. I think I have made myself too available and too willing to help her out, but how do I go back? How do I say I don't want to help as much anymore? I don't want to hurt her feelings or leave her with too much work to do. And I don't want to ask for any more of a discount, $200 is more than fair, especially with the price of hay around here.
This is what I do daily, 4 days a week, for my $175 per month discount...
Clean and rake 8 stalls, sweep stall mats, put out hay and grain in each stall, and fill the water buckets. Sweep the center aisle, the office, the feed room, the tack room, and the bathroom. Fill all 4 troughs outside, bring hay bales in the barn, and occasionally clean the run-in sheds.
Sometimes, the BO will clean 4-5 stalls, but all she does is remove the waste, then she asks me to finish them. In the beginning, she used to finish 6 stalls every day so I only had 2 to do. Then she started slacking and I started saying "No worries, I got it. Don't stress, I'll finish it up." and now, I think she is really comfortable with leaving most of the work for me.
This is what it all adds up to... I work 4 days a week, every week, all month long. That is 16 days of work to earn $175 off of my board, which equals about $11 a day. I'm pretty sure I work a lot harder than I should have to. The problem is... I am the nicest, most accommodating person on the planet. Obviously, to my own demise. How do I get out of this situation without creating an issue?
I know I should just talk to her, but if I back out of some of the work, she will have to pick it back up and she doesn't have the time. She works out of the house, then comes home to take care of her kids. I don't know if she can afford to have another boarder work for a discount and it's not really my place to suggest that anyway. Plus, I don't know if anyone else CAN do the work for me.