It's difficult for men to understand how women connect to their children (2 AND 4 legged), because they just aren't wired like we are. My husband jibes me too about all my animals...I just give him "that" look and there's been times when I've even told him he was an ass. I love the look on his face when I say that...it's kind of like, WHAT? ME?! Hehe! He generally apologizes to me right away.
I think you should run yourself a nice, hot bubble bath to relax your body, then have a hot cup of camomile tea (it's amazingly good with honey!) and try to get some rest. Worrying yourself sick about her not coming into milk won't make her come into milk...all you can do is hope and pray for the best, but prepare for the possibility that she may not. As long as you're prepared, you will be okay, I promise. :)
BIG hugs to you, dear! Don't let the insensitivity of the day ruin your self confidence. And remember, you have all of US to back you up if you need anything!