Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Washington, USA.
What would you do in my situation?
I don't know what to do. Keep my mouth shut or piss her off?
I have a friend who is quite the BYB. And not just with horses. Dogs, cats, chickens, sheep. She just makes a ton of babies. And honestly, they do NOT have the means to care for any of it. All their animals were thin, the dogs were tied and/or crated 24/7. They ended up with an adorable Sharpey [spelling?] puppy, and when it grew up a bit [not much, she was only maybe 1.5 years old] they bred it to a mutt of a huge black dog they had. I saw her once and she was nothing but skin and bones. Their excuse was that the puppies were sucking the life out of her. The next time I went over, I asked where she was, and she DIED because they forgot to bring her in for the night [to her crate] in the dead of winter. O_O
They usually had several horses, and then my friend came across an Appy stud, so guess what that meant? Lots and LOTS of babies. Eventually, her mom said "screw it all" and they sold everything but the dogs. A few months later, she spent $300 on an Aussie puppy because she was "depressed" from losing her horses. The puppy is now 9 months old and still not spayed because she doesn't know if she wants to breed her or not. O_O
Recently, my friend got her mare back. She keeps her at another friends house for free, she doesn't have a job, I have no idea how she's paying for this horse, and lately she's been talking to me about breeding her Arab mare [not registered] to a Trak, but now wants to breed to a Haflinger. To which I say, "That should be interesting." She says, "Not really. Haflingers descended from Arabs." Is that true? I highly doubt it, Haffies are so drafty, how could they descend from an Arab? But I don't know, maybe it's true.
But I don't know what to do. I wish that I had called Animal Control when all this started, when Honey was skin and bones and had a litter to feed. But I was younger and stupid then, in denial, turned a blind eye, that sort of thing. And now there is nothing to call about, because she hasn't had time to starve her mare yet [they get fed, just not much, or well] and Animal Control won't care that one dog is tied to a tree in the yard 24/7 and the other is kept in a crate with a blanket over it 24/7 because they have food and water.
I COULD try and talk to her, but she wouldn't listen, and she'd just get pissed and stop talking to me, it wouldn't change anything, and she wouldn't change her mind. I'd like to stick around solely so I CAN call Animal Control when it gets to that point. But then I'm being a two-faced not-really-your-friend kind of person and I don't want to be like that. But I don't want to ignore something so terrible. She means well, she loves her animals, but it's like those crazy old women who get fifty cats and dogs removed from her house because she can't care for them.
Sorry this is so long, I just wanted to make sure you could grasp the whole situation, But what would you do?
"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds."