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post #11 of 31 Old 07-26-2010, 07:33 PM
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Hang in there and keep your head high :) If you love your mare, that's all that matters. I have a PMU draft cross who is huge and get a lot of comments about how he "can't" dressage, is too big to do much but eat, is a mutt, etc. but those who really know him are the ones I listen to. People who stereotype horses by breed are just trying to show off and end up showing how ignorant they are. Some of the best horses I've ever had, including my very first horse when I was 6 were Arabs :)

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post #12 of 31 Old 07-26-2010, 08:57 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by Zeke View Post
I live in So Cal and have not experienced such attitudes from others. Where are you? I'm just curious....

Anyways, why not just ignore them? Why not say anything and go about your business? Sounds like this is at your work place, so if I were you I would just go about my work without paying attention to them. YOU love your horse, no one else has to.
I'm in Camp Pendleton. I work at the stables there and also board my horse there.
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post #13 of 31 Old 07-26-2010, 09:00 PM
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I live in Southern California and have never seen that! Sounds like you need a new circle of people to talk horses with!

I think there can be some breed-snobbery when it comes to specific disciplines but I always thought that Arabians are very popular and flashy and excel at most things as far as I know, English and Western!

I've seen a little negativity about my beefy-cakey quarter horse doing dressage and I've seen a girl playfully teased for taking her OTTB jumper to a gymkana and doing poles with him in an English saddle.

Anyways, you love your horse and there is nothing wrong with Arabians of course!

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post #14 of 31 Old 07-26-2010, 09:01 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by Eolith View Post
Don't pay them any heed. You know what your horse is capable of, and you have a significant bond with her. Why should you care what anyone else thinks? I know it's tough to be criticized, but its something you'll face in one form or another throughout life.

Keep in mind that you too need to keep an open mind towards the other breeds that people own. If you're touting that your Arabian is better than thier horses and you've always had Arabians and always will have Arabians, they'll likely be more bitter towards you. Even if you aren't intentionally doing any of this, you can't be certain of how other people are percieving your breed loyalty.

Owners of mustangs usually face a very high degree of this type of breed discrimination.
Yes I say that I am personally an Arab person and will always have one, but I don't sit there and make fun of the everyone else's horses. All I encourage and point out to them is that my horse being an Arab can do everything that their horses can.
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post #15 of 31 Old 07-26-2010, 09:07 PM
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Didn't realize there was a ranch there. On the base? I've been in Poway and all the way to IB in my years and everywhere I've been is accepting of Arabs. Obviously not everyone loves the horses as you do but there are lots of places down here that like them much more then where you are it sounds like.

Hopefully if you ignore them and start shrugging it off they'll get hint and stop. Otherwise maybe move your horse if it really starts to bother you?
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post #16 of 31 Old 07-26-2010, 09:20 PM
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I agree with everyone else...who cares what anyone else thinks. Just go about your business with a smile on your face, it will make you more confident. I've owned arabs before too, and I wouldn't own any other breed. They can do just as much if not better than other breeds, so don't let it get to you, I know it must be hard, I went throgh a similar situation myself when I moved my arab to an all QH barn, boy was that interesting. I didn't hear any snide remarks, but people looked at my arab like he was an alien that didn't belong, but I did not let it get to me, cause I knew he was just as good as any of the other horses in the barn and he knew it too! So keep your head up and remember who cares if they don't like your mare, she knows you love her and thats all that matters..
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post #17 of 31 Old 07-28-2010, 06:42 PM
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Best advice is to grin largely and switch conversation to a completely different topic that draws attention to themselves, not to you.

That's what I do, not related to horses but to myself. I work in a corporation, on a floor with bored, chunky bitchy ladies. After dissecting Lady Gaga's videos and everyone else's husband, they started picking on me for being underweight on a daily basis.

A normal discussion such as "I think my horse if fine, I am pleased with him and I wish you luck with yours too" does not always work. Same as my "I am fine, did blood tests, went to nutritionist, eat healthier than most of you" did not lead me to anything good either.

So try as I did, switch suddenly the conversation back to them. I tend to snap back 10 times meaner than the "agressor" so don't do like me , however:

"Oh, Ina, you're scarily skinny"
"You've got a mustache. Have you noticed? Looks cute on you though, I guess"
...akward silence...

But again, I tend to be very mean in my counterattacks especially if the person picking on me is doing it out of boredom / snobbery / low self esteem. Don't do like me if you're shy or simply more polite.


"Your Arab has such a weird trot"
"Mhm probably. Where did you get your breeches from?"
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post #18 of 31 Old 08-03-2010, 11:05 AM
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hi I got a TB after looking his pedigree up turned out he is half arab on his dams side He is by far the smartest, most giving horse I have ever owned 6weeks off the track Belmont, he was giving lessons to a 5 year old girl walking with his head low on a loose rein. I taught him to leg yield in like 5 min. If you like your horse thats all that matters you have to ride him.
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post #19 of 31 Old 08-03-2010, 11:17 AM
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Just ignore it. Don't even reply to them.
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post #20 of 31 Old 08-03-2010, 11:24 AM
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I know how you feel people can be so snooty sometimes. I used to have a saddlebred and I would do show jumping with her. All the people would look at her and just automatically judge her cause gaited horses are rarely seen in the jumper ring. But once she was beating the warmbloods and thoroughbreds in the shows they shut up.

But you should just ignore them and just concentrate on how great your horse is. People like that are not worth getting upset and frustrated over.
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