I see a heavy handed rider too! I don't exactly see the tail swishing though, I just see him holding it up and slightly to the side. The weight of the wrap seems to be bobbing (his tail goes to the ground to the point that he can step on it when he backs up, thus the tail wrap).
I see improvement, and I see improvement needed. I think his discomfort is me. I've also been told my saddle appears to be due for some maintenance in the form of restuffing and rebalancing. I found a Kieffer authorized place in Kansas City and I am going to work on getting it there sometime Spring/Summer. I have noticed that it throws me forward, where it didn't used to causing my pelvis to tilt backwards with my tailbone in the air, instead of sitting properly down into my seat bones. I guess I've been riding on my punanny and not really realizing it except for some recent constant lower back pain. I've ordered a Wintec Front Lift comfort pad Wintec Comfort Saddle Pad - Cushions & Wedges from SmartPak Equine
from Dover to see if it helps until I can get the saddle tended to.
I've also put myself in full training until the show. NO SODAS, period. Actually no drinks except water and occasionally milk. Fresh meat and veggies, high protein, low carb and an abdominal, leg butt workout along with cardio. I'm slimming down, and getting fit. I think that will help Cinny tremendously.
Cinny is off for the next 3 days or so. He has his dentals/shots tomorrow and then we are doing only ground work with no bit for a couple of days afterward. He has a long history of bit shyness so I am making sure his mouth is not sore at all because I'm afraid of him associating the bit with any residual dental appointment pain and having to go back a few steps again. I think I may do yet another day of what I call "seat riding" where we go around the arena with dropped reins and I work on steering, stopping, everything from my seat only. It's something I usually make my daughter do because I don't like her yanking on him, but it appears I need to practice what I preach a bit :)
I really appreciate everyone's views. Keep them coming, don't be afraid of being mean. Sometimes I need to be knocked down a few pegs because I get really cocky with my riding when I have no right to be.