OK. So if the bond is important, why not wait for a horse you have at least some click factor with straight away? It might take some time, I have a friend who was horse hunting for 18 months or more and is STILL struggling with confidence with the horse she bought, 3 years after buying him... but it might take no time at all. My gelding was offered to me within a week of starting looking, and my filly was the third youngster I went to see. I fell in love with a gorgeous part Welsh colt, but the guy upped the price to well outside my price range. I fell harder in love with my girl and put down a deposit on the spot.
Out of the two you posted, I do prefer the gelding, though like I said I haven't watched the videos. Conformationally he doesn't have a reason to work downhill, which says to me it's incorrect training and riding and not the horse's natural build and movement. HOWEVER, it's easier to work with a horse that already moves how you want it to, and conformation isn't everything. If the mare has the heart to jump, and moves well, then she's your pick. JMO of course.
Last edited by blue eyed pony; 04-13-2012 at 10:11 AM.