Okay, I guess I haven't really had the opportunity to explain our situation fully. It started with a question about a horses legs. I am not going into this blindly, nor do I want the horse "my kid can grow up with". I want a horse my daughter can ride hard for the next 10 years+. She has been riding in lessons for just shy of 4 years now, we leased a horse for 4-H last year, and are again this year. Myself AND my husband have been taking riding lessons, doing clinics, attending seminars, etc to prepare ourselves for horse ownership. We clean stalls once a week or more and I help give lessons to a group of beginners. My husband works on any project our trainer's husband can come up with, including new fences, new obstacles in the trail course, a new arena fence, hay (we put up 1000 bales this year). My daughter also helps in beginner lessons and camp. Before we even considered buying a horse, we have fully emersed ourselves in this lifestyle.
Unlike many families who go out and buy a cheap horse that is not meant or trained for their kid's needs, I am searching the help and guidance of a professional who knows my daughter and her skill well. As I've said, I trust her with my daughter's life. She chooses the 1000 lb animal to put my baby on. I do not consider myself prepared to go and look at a horse without her. It is her idea to put me on the horse for the year and leave my daughter on the lease for the remainder of the 4-H year. She believes that (with her help) I can bring the right horse along enough to put my daughter on next year WITH INSTRUCTION.
Like anyone, I have a price range, and we are looking at horses within that price range, and within driving distance because we HAVE to see the horse. Ideally, we could do a 1 month trial so we could be in control of the horse for a vet check, but that's not always an option.
As for my daughter, she's completely happy with the current situation, but knows that this will be her last year with this horse. He cannot keep up with her at the pace she likes to go. Right now she gets to ride the love of her life, and she knows we're looking for her next horse. What more could a kid want?
Please understand that I am not going into this blindly. I have an excellent mentor who knows my budget and my kid. We are also doing what we can as her parents to prepare ourselves.