they let me pick up their hoofs, streach them, put boots on, picking, anything I want, but when he comes out they act like this. Me and my mom work with them as they are our horses. I don't trust many with my horses I only trust one friend to ride them if she ever does. Im very picky about who sees them let alone works with them.
By the way my farrier knows how to handle horses, he doesnt give up. Its not my fualt that their last owners neglected them and half feed them so they could work with them. Or abused them so they would listen.
Their past is their past - you are dealing with now. As you have seen, they have an issue with your farrier/men handling their feet - no amount of you and your mom working on it is going to fix that problem because, in your own words, they don't have any problem with that. You are not addressing the problem. Get over the pickiness - it is doing them no favors at this point.