The only way to make it stay is braiding. Wet helps but it won't make it stay since it doesn't last, you need to train the hair to want to go to that side, so long term. Wet it braid it tightly (obviously not too tightly) then I like to braid a little loose after the initial bit and do a regular braid down to the end. Redo daily/ every other day. Leave it for awhile then try leaving it out. If her mane is pulled and its no biggy let it grow out, the weight will help hold it down. It will be much harder short. Redo as needed.