Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Southeastern PA
What are your fears? As you didn't list them, let me attempt to address (in my opinion) what they might be:
Risk of surgery for a 9 year old.
9 is far from old, in fact I believe a horse fully matures at 7, so your horse is in its prime and not old at all. Most dentists sedate for dental work, which carries the similar risks, but it is something that you would not think twice about doing.
You can't change your mind and breed him
That's for you to decide, can't offer you advise there.
He will change
Why? When he is not studly now?
If your husband had a vasectomy, he would still be the same person and you would still love each other as much, wouldn't you?
He will be in pain for a while
Probably will be, but it will be managed, and it won't last for long. It won't be like going out to his pasture in the morning and finding him three legged lame, wondering if he has been that way since 30 mins after you left him the night before. You know the pain is coming and you can treat him for that.
It both shows in the photo, and reads, that you love your boy dearly. I think it would be advisable to talk to your vet about how concerned you are, and your reasons.
When my dogs health was not good, and I had a hard time talking without being very emotional, I emailed my vet as I could plan out what I wanted to say and make it coherent. She did not have an email that I was aware of, so I emailed the practice, with the title being 'please forward to Dr xx'. I didn't realize that I had a vet who was half as good as she is, until I did that. She explained everything to me in detail, and as it was in an email, I could reread it and digest it. She also was fully able to understand my perspective and help me through the decisions that had to be made.