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post #1 of 23 Old 02-08-2012, 10:35 PM Thread Starter
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I feel sick about this...opinions?

Okay so my brother has a 27 yo horse, my brother is 10 yo so he is typically a good weight for his horse (not too heavy for him)

My mom pays cheaper board for him if he does a lesson once a week (he was their best lesson horse before they sold him to my brother)

Recently, my brother, two cousins and I have lessons and then right after my mom, her friends sister, her kids and another friend have a lesson right after us.

So recently only two/three people come after us so the coach is just letting them ride our horses after we are done with them (which I already think is unfair because we work them hard before)

So my brothers 27yo horse not only gets ridden twice in a row (without a break) ..but he gets ridden by a 300+ lb lady...I think this is totally unfair to him. It would be too much for my completely healthy 10yo horse...Nevermind a horse that already should be taking it slowly.

Last time she rode, she tried mounting from the ground and she actually made him fall and catch himself again..this literally made me sick to my stomach.

My mom doesn't want to say anything because she doesn't want to offend my coach..but this is making us all sad and worried about my brothers horse.

What do you think about this?
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post #2 of 23 Old 02-08-2012, 10:44 PM
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I think that if the horse can't handle her getting on from the ground, she shouldn't be riding him. I'm with you- i would be upset by this too. Especially for an older horse, much less one that was previously worked. My horse is 17 and if i work him hard, he has rest afterwards, and i don't let him carry any more than about 230.
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Thanks for your opinion..glad you agree :)
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post #4 of 23 Old 02-08-2012, 10:49 PM
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If you don't agree with the workload as a lesson horse, pay the full board and solve the problem!
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I do not think this lady should be riding your horse. Keeping an older horse in shape is one thing, and there are some hrose who could probably handle that weight, but if the horse is falling he is obviously struggling.

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #6 of 23 Old 02-08-2012, 10:54 PM
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Having a horse as a lesson horse is something I'm used to and okay with- to an extent. I haven't had any problems like this but I think the coach should be more aware of what the horse can really handle. if something is done with my horse that I'm not okay with, I let someone know. Your mom shouldnt feel bad for saying something to the coach, it's yours and your coach's responsibity to keep an eye on the horse's wellbeing.
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post #7 of 23 Old 02-08-2012, 10:59 PM
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I would Definitely say something asap
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post #8 of 23 Old 02-08-2012, 11:01 PM
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I would just say something, you are not doing the horse any good by just wanting to help you have to take your opinion to the coach better yet you need to have your mother explain to the coach that it is her horse and she doesn't approve of circumstances. She need to be polite of course but stay firm and she re-frame from using phrases such as "your methods" "What you do" "how you do things" this will only create confrontation. she just needs to say "I would like my sons horse to have a decent brake between lessons and a weight restriction, because he is older and I want him to be and stay as healthy as possible".

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post #9 of 23 Old 02-08-2012, 11:15 PM
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I'm appalled that the trainer/riding instructor didn't notice it and bring it up!! That's so ridiculous.. you have every right to feel sick and off about it.

It's worth paying more to keep your horse healthy and in good condition.. which it sounds as though having that much weight on his back isn't accomplishing :/

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post #10 of 23 Old 02-08-2012, 11:35 PM Thread Starter
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Okay, so I just talked to my mom briefly. I told her that she needs to talk to our coach and say that we want Dakota to be his healthiest and we think it is unfair to him unless we have a weight restriction. She is very reasonable and I know that even though we had a deal, if it's affecting the well being of a horse, she will understand.

I think she just doesn't know how to address the situation...I mean, what is she going to say? You're too fat, get off his horse. I think she might be waiting for us to say something otherwise she doesn't want to have to offend someone..and therefore lose a customer.
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