Another small "discussion" with my MIL over my difference in horsemanship. My horse is sensitive about her ears but she is fairly patient when I try to rub and fuss with them. I really don't work with her that much on her ears though. Anyway, my MIL decided today that while we had Lily in the cross-ties she was going to BRUSH the inside of Lily's ears whether she likes it or not. MIL was very abrupt and in-your-face about it. Lily started to get upset and pull away, of course this made MIL more irritated and forceful and Lily started to get scared/freaked out and pulled harder, whites of her eyes showing, etc. I didn't want this to turn into WWIII so I said "I'm not sure this is such a good way to go about this" and MIL went off on me! She told me that "FINE, FINE, go ahead and do it your way" and that I'm going to have to start winning and not letting this horse get away with anything. I told her that I'm not out to fight with the horse and I really don't mind taking time to work with issues (yes, I was a little miffed when I said it ). She then stomped off to the tack room.
Now my 8-year old daughter says "maybe I can do it". Lily was still a little upset and wouldn't let us near her head. I told my daughter to use her fingers to scratch and rub the top of her neck and move towards her ear. Sure enough within 3 or 4 minutes she was letting both my daughter and I play with her ears for a few minutes at a time. Now MIL is really pissed when she sees this and says "Yeah, you got one didn't you?!" and proceeds to tell me how her horsemanship is very different than what I call horsemanship. She was so irritated that she left the barn all together.
Arrrggggg!!!!! I will admit that she has many years of experience on my but sometimes she treats me like I know nothing and she is so controlling about it!!! Why does everything have to be a fight? Why does she think that everybody is fighting her? MAKES ME CRAZY!!!
I feel a little better now. I just need to rant, rave and let a little steam off!!!