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post #1 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 11:45 AM Thread Starter
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My horse fell..=(

And it was my fault. I feel so awful it is unreal =( I was washing her legs. She was a bit afraid of some men making noise a bit away. But she settled down while I hosed down her front legs. Then I went to her back legs. She ran into me and started running around it circles. She then stepped on my foot twice. So I got pretty angry. Since she wanted to move I started making her move...She then slipped and fell ='( Oh gosh I feel so bad! When she stood back up she was so scared her legs were shaking. So were mine from total shock and guilt.

I then brought her away and walked her around until she relaxed. When I went back to where it happened she was ok so I tied her up to put the shampoo on her legs. I noticed she had a cut on her back leg. So I thought she must have caught it in the metal door...Poor thing =( There was also a little slice at the top of her hoove where the soft part is. It was bleeding a little bit so I washed it out and put sudocrem on it..Will it be ok?

I am also wondering will she be ok or will she become more nervous..? After a few minutes I brought her back to the hose and gave her a mineral lick. She was fine with me washing off her front legs but when I tried to wash her back legs again she started walking around so I waited until she stopped and turned the hose off. She seems to be scared of getting hose anyways so is there anyway I can make her not afraid of it.

And I really need help with my temper. So many times I have wanted to really hurt her because she annoys me in whatever way. I hit her when she does not stop moving etc. Then I cry after because I feel so bad. So I do not to hurt her at all it is just I have no control over my angriness. I really don't want to be mean to her. Does anyone else have problems with their temper around horses? How do you control it?

I know half the people on this forum do not like me but please do not hold this against me because I have never felt so bad in my life.
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post #2 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 11:57 AM
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Oh I am so sorry. It sounds terrifying for both of you. Now my guess is she is going to be a bit more nervous the next time you bathe her, so you will have to work on that. As for your temper, we all have them and are allowed to have them. Just know that out of control anger does more damage than good, always.

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post #3 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 11:57 AM
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If I told you how many times my filly has fallen down, the majority of people in ere would probably think I was the meanest person ever.

First, it is unlikely the cuts will heal up with any sort of problem. I'm sure she will be fine.

Second, I do not think your correction itself was a bad one. The anger, probably, but making her move was not wrong.

I also struggle with anger, but my horses are far from being abused. I usually keep my cool better when they are confused and learning, it's when my horses, say, forget how to tie that I get ticked. Even then, I have been able to take a deep breath, and calmly wallop my filly on the haunches with my dressage whip for swinging them around, lol.

Sometimes, it is better to take a second for a deep breath than follow through with correction in the allotted three seconds. Set aside time to work with her on standing still while bathed. The goal isn't the bath, the goal is the standing still. Good luck!

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post #4 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 11:58 AM
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Temper and frustration is common thing. That doesn't make it any better, though. Whenever you start feeling frustrated or angry with her, you should pause, take a few deep breaths, and ask yourself how -she- is perceiving what you are telling her. She might not understand if it's a new command, and if you are upset, that can make her upset and the situation will only get worse.

In this case, it seems she was nervous of the noises made by the men, and also nervous of the hose around her back legs. These things combined and made her scared, and when she fell, she must have been terrified.

Anyways, she will likely be nervous the next time, too. Perhaps you should start by desensitizing her to the hose around her back legs, before you ever turn the water on. When she can handle just the hose, (and keep in mind, she will probably take a few days, and will probably make you frustrated, so remember to breathe, and be patient, she's scared, after all) turn the water on low and just hose the floor or the walls around her. Let her see that it's not a big deal, she's not getting wet, yet, and everything is all right. After that, you can start moving up her legs. Go slow and if she starts to act nervous, wait till she calms down a bit and back the hose off of her. I don't know how long it will take, you might get this done in a day, you might get this done in a few weeks. You never know, with horses.

Also, keep an eye on her cuts and keep them clean. You might also want to make sure that she is up to date on her tetanus shots and everything.

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post #5 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 12:04 PM
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I don't know how old you are, and I don't want to assume anything, but you do sound quite young.

Getting mad at your horse for trying to move away from something she is afraid of (hose on back legs) isn't going to solve any of your problems. Horses require patience. Lots of patience. If you feel yourself getting upset you need to take a timeout. Walk away. Take a couple deep breaths.

Honestly, if you can't control your anger around her, then maybe you shouldn't have a horse at all.
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I do not think it is fair to say the OP should not have a horse. It's not like she beat her horse senseless, she just had too much anger in her correction.

I do agree that turning yourself inward and taking a breath before reacting is a good idea. We all make mistakes, and so long as you learn from them, then there isn't really any harm done. I highly doubt she will be a nervous wreck now. A bit more dancey next time, sure, but not a wreck.

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post #7 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 12:24 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone =)

I did not beat her I just made her move because she wanted too.

Have you ever had a horse repeatedly run into you and step on your feet? It is extremely frustrating. I have been washing her back legs for the past few weeks. It was just today she was running off so I thought it was those men too.

She also has mud fever( Or could be something else will find out soon) so her legs are hurting..I gave her the lick that I have been giving her for the past few days which usually keeps her still but she was not interested in it today. Again because the noise was distracting her. The thing is she has been around that noise these past few weeks. I guess it was all of the lights flashing etc. After she relaxed I thought she would have been quiet but I guess not.

I am 19 by the way.

when she fell I was so scared she pulled or broke something. It was absolutely terrifying seeing the look in her eye.

After it happened I tried to make her not hate me...I gave her food and even put her in the field where her best friend is. Hopefully she is happy now and believe me I am never gonna do that again.
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post #8 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 12:44 PM
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I can understand your guilt AND your anger. I think we have all been there. Yesterday my horse was playing the 'You're not the boss of me game.' I got my foot stepped on numerous times, I got punted by his hip, and the webbings of my arms are sore from reaching for his head.

There were alot of distractions yesterday in our barn that aren't usually there. The radio was on, there were two horses getting their feet done, etc. Plus it coming spring time and him having stolen another horses sweet feed before I got there...well, it was a disaster.

I was getting so intensely angry. I stalled him back up, went to my truck, had a good cry for about 20 minutes and then went back inside. He is so sensitive to my breathing and body language and I've been dusting off my old NH techniques, but since I had already been angry, I just looked at my BO and said 'Help'. It was all I could do because I couldn't relax at that point.

Basically, I'm saying I understand what you are going through and there are a lot of posts that are similar to yours. Now, you know the consequences of your anger and you will be less likely to let it happen again.

Desensitizing with the hose is a great idea, like Salila said.
I always step away for awhile when my goof ball gets me to this point. And breathe, breathe, breathe.
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post #9 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 12:55 PM
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Anger is counterproductive, but I'm far too hot-tempered to throw any stones your way. However, horses get angry too, and they chase each other, and sometimes someone falls. The ground in my corral is hard and dry most of the time, but a few days of rain make it very slick. They get mad, chase, fall, get back up, and when I can I clean any cuts and spray with wound spray. To date, I haven't seen anything that didn't heal quickly.

BTW - since I sold the smaller mare, the corral has become a much quieter place. No running, and I'm hoping the days of falls are mostly over. The two I kept get along well and mostly are happy standing next to each other.

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post #10 of 25 Old 03-07-2011, 01:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Sarahandlola View Post
...Have you ever had a horse repeatedly run into you and step on your feet...After it happened I tried to make her not hate me...
No, I've never had a horse repeatedly run into me and step on my feet. The first time is enough to stop whatever I'm doing and apply discipline. Once in a while it is an accident - they get startled and turn without thinking about you being there, and that isn't 'bad'. But most of the time, a horse pushing into your space isn't an accident. It is a challenge. Better to correct it with the first step than to allow it to escalate.
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