I wonder if there is such a thing... My qh HATES when something gets around her ears. With that being said I can gently pet/touch it all over (she tolerates while she doesn't look happy), but clippers, scissors, mask with ears (or bonnet) absolutely can't go around them. I tried it slowly, for months, desensitizing etc. It just doesn't work AT ALL. As long as she feels something touching the hairs there - she shakes her head badly and don't stop till its gone.
Is she fine with having a halter or bridle put on? Do you gingerly/gently put them on? Have you tried desensitizing by rubbing her forehead and quickly going over her ears and rubbing her neck? Then going back and forth rubbing forehead, neck, forehead, etc.? Each time going over the ears going a little slower than before? I think that if you are being really careful of touching her ears that they have gotten extra sensitive. I'm not saying to be rough with her ears but to be deliberate about touching them. I get to where I can touch the base of the ear, then rub the outside, squeeze/fold the ear closed, touch the hair on the inside and finally where I can put my finger inside. If they have a reaction, I continue what I'm doing until they calm down and relax. Don't try to do it all in a long sitting. Work at it for 5 minutes in between doing other things and come back to it later for another 5 minutes. Hope this helps.
I can put halter/bridle with no problem. It's not so much the outside of the ear as it's inside. She's extremely sensitive about those hairs on sides of the ears. And yes, I tried pretty much everything I can think of... Lol!