My employer of 29 years is dying. He has had cancer for about 6 years and gave it a very good fight. He had the money to get the best treatment but I guess liver cancer always gets you eventually.
I would not be the person I am today if it wasn't for him. I was a bartender, when the person where I kept my horse told me my future employer was looking for a manager for his country home. 200 acres, 7 bedroom house, managers house, 7 horses, pool, 5 lakes, truck, expense acct , insurance and a 401k... I didn't give 2 weeks notice at the bar. I told him I came with, not to much baggage, just a horse, a dog and a cat.
I had horses my entire life, but driving had always been something I wanted to do. He let me indulge in my driving letting me buy a driving horse, several carts and harnesses and a trailer. Growing up in St. Louis just riding a Clydesdale had been a dream, I had the pleasure of having 3 all to myself, Ben, Seamus and Sam. I learned to braid them and took the clydes to golf tournements, bar openings, town fairs and parades. He bought me a mini Budweiser wagon and a very fancy harness for parades.
In 1985 during the World Series in STL I met a new veterinarian at the clinic in town. I begged my boss to find me tickets so I could ask the vet out. I wanted to ask him to a venue that would be hard to pass up. He got me tickets to the sold out game. It worked, in 1995 the vet and I were married.
I saw my employer through 3 weddings and 2 divorces. I can throw a party for 400 guests. I supervised 5 weddings on the property including mine, my employers 2nd and 3 professional athleats. We have had Doc Severenson and the NBC orchestra play for us by the lake and Michael Bluble play under a monster tent.
He has taken me on his yaght to Florida, Marta's Vineyard, Bahamas, St Thomas, St Martin and St Barts. He has tought me how to enjoy fine wine and to love the landscape. I got a degree in horticulture and studied arboriculture.
I am going to miss him terribly. I sat by his bedside a couple hours today and he never knew I was there. Hospice is with him so I guess it won't be long now. I don't think I got to say goodbye.
I do not know if my current head ache if from crying or the fine wine.