Sorry, but your biological dad sounds "not so nice." You have permission from your mom to work with this horse, no? Who has full custody? Is it 50/50? I understand your step dad's position on it. What would be your biological father's ground for suing, getting back at your mom? Your mom has a say in your life, not just your dad. His say does not override your mom's. On top of that you are seventeen, you are not a young child. I would proceed with your goals. Your father is trying to put fear and intimidation into you, your mom, and your step father. I would not give him that power.
Ah, yeah, that's another very complicated conversation all-together. My mother is dying
for me to be able to work with the gelding, and is nearly as excited as I am. I'm technically with her 100% of the time, as I'm living with her now, but nothing legal proves that. Custody hasn't been sorted through the court yet. Does that change anything? I appreciate the answer, so thank you!
Has your biological father expressed negativity towards your horse situation? I shouldn't asked that first...
Not to me, but he's fixing to use what he can against mom in the divorce -- which includes the payments he made on my last mare, for a purpose I'm not entirely sure of. We're just unsure of what we would tolerate at this time, if you get me?
I would explain to your father that your love of horses, and the fact that your stepfather is helping you, has nothing to do with their divorce. Hopefully, if you speak to him sensibly, he will understand.
Keep us updated!
Yeah, I think I'm going to try and get ahold of him in order to try and explain. It could blow over and go great, but I'm afraid of the alternative. He's always been very kind regarding me and my riding, so this is all a bit of a shock.
Again, thank you everyone!