Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Just south of sanity
White Foot, there's no real timetable. Your grief will take as long as it takes.
I do know that for awhile everything will look bleak, and you won't take an interest in anything or anyone. This feeling does pass, but while you're going through it you'll wonder if you'll ever feel anything other than pain ever again.
My boy will be gone 3 years in July, and it was after the second anniversary of his death when I realized I was starting to feel as if I'd just come out of a dark tunnel.
Once you begin to feel a little better, you may start feeling guilty because you're not mourning as hard as you were at the beginning. Don't give in to guilt! It's the natural order of things that we heal from loss, and your girl wouldn't want you to grieve forever.
You're not being disloyal when you can laugh at the silly things she did; it's important that you remember the good times because we need to celebrate their lives, not forever mourn their loss.
It's also important than when you're ready, you find another horse to love.
I know right now you may be thinking you can't possibly go through that heartache ever again, but if you love horses the way I think you do, you'll not just want another one, you'll need another one.
You'll never not miss her, but I promise there will be a time when you look back on her life and smile because of all the good memories.
Do I still cry over my boy? Yes, sometimes. But those times are getting less frequent, and I'm glad. I loved him dearly, and I want to remember him with happiness.