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    03-17-2013, 07:12 PM
  #11
Green Broke
Princess42, I want to welcome you to the forum. If you have lost your precious horse, I want to tell you I am so very sorry for your loss. I'll never pretend to know how others are feeling when they've lost their horse, because it hasn't happened to me - yet. Tomorrow marks the 22nd birthday of my beloved QH. She's in excellent health, as is my almost 20 yr old Morgan. But my day without them will come, as I know they won't live forever. I know I'll grieve over them, cry in the night, cry during the day, and miss them terribly. I'll make all attempts to remember every single good time, funny, cute, and happy memory on their behalf, and let that be my comfort. My heart goes out to you - let your lovely memories bring you to that place of healing.
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    03-17-2013, 07:17 PM
  #12
Trained
Well, the OP did state that this is directed to people that haven't lost a horse.

To go one more step, I'm thinking maybe the OP could also mean it's directed to people that haven't lost a close animal companion.

The loss of an animal companion is definitely different than a human, but that said, every loss and every person and every situation is different.

To the OP -- maybe you are interpreting other people's past experiences/stories as being directed to tell you how you are "supposed" to feel. You are not "supposed" to feel any particular way. You feel how you feel and just know there is empathy for your loss. No one can truly know your own mind and emotions. But many of us have lost a close companion and want you just to know that we care.

As far as any empathy coming from people that haven't experienced this -- well, they probably mean well, Princess42. Please don't be angry with them because they are trying to be nice. If they don't understand, it's not their fault, but they just want to say, "I care."

So, insomuch as a stranger can care, I care. I care that it's so tough for you that you are reaching out to tell us and I hope you heal soon.
     
    03-17-2013, 07:20 PM
  #13
Foal
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Originally Posted by SouthernTrailsGA    
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No words for this thread


Comanche, 33 years old, rest in peace 2-26-2010 dear friend


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Beauty---33 years old, RIP 5-10-2000, Stroke
Flight-----26 years old, Rip 9-21-2009, illness
Joe-------30 years old, RIP 8-30-2012, Age
     
    03-17-2013, 09:48 PM
  #14
Trained
Offering support and kind words to someone who is grieving is natural. IMO the only response should be thank you, Shalom
     
    03-17-2013, 10:53 PM
  #15
Super Moderator
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Originally Posted by JoesMom    
Beauty---33 years old, RIP 5-10-2000, Stroke
Flight-----26 years old, Rip 9-21-2009, illness
Joe-------30 years old, RIP 8-30-2012, Age
'Lil Ab, son of the olympic gold medal jumper Abdullah. The greatest friend, horse or human, I have ever known. I know you were well loved. And, Princess42, I think you DO know how I feel.

Ab, always loved, greatly missed.

     
    03-18-2013, 02:43 AM
  #16
Foal
Sorry everyone I wrote this last night whilst I was upset, hope nobody was offended I'm very sorry, can you delete a thread?
     
    03-18-2013, 04:06 AM
  #17
Green Broke
Princess42 I am very sorry for your loss.

Unfortunately, I DO know how it feels. I have lost 3 horses in a little over 2 years. Most recently I had to make the devastating decision to let my heart horse go after watching him break his leg right in front of me.

While I would never wish that, or the continuing heartbreak on anybody, it is helpful to know that others have experienced it and come out the other side.
     
    03-18-2013, 05:21 AM
  #18
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Originally Posted by Allison Finch    
'Lil Ab, son of the olympic gold medal jumper Abdullah. The greatest friend, horse or human, I have ever known. I know you were well loved. And, Princess42, I think you DO know how I feel.

Ab, always loved, greatly missed.

Allison, I love how he is darn near looking at the camera as if to say "did you get that shot?". What a gorgeous horse.
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    03-18-2013, 06:37 AM
  #19
Green Broke
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Originally Posted by Princess42    
Sorry everyone I wrote this last night whilst I was upset, hope nobody was offended I'm very sorry, can you delete a thread?
Princess42, I really don't know why I stop and read this part of the forum because each one who post of their loss just breaks my heart and most often brings tears to my eyes. I guess that's sad for a grown man to say, but yes, it hurts me to.

Yes, you're right, we don't know how you feel, but I darn sure know how I feel after reading about the loss of a horse and the despair it brings to his partner.

We all share a common bond, the love of our horses. Believe it or not, I'm sure we all grieve a little when a forum member post of such a loss.

I know you're hurting....and pray god finds a way to comfort you.
     
    03-19-2013, 07:56 AM
  #20
Started
I know how it feels... our old man had to be put down just about two years ago. I walked him over to the hole... I stroked his nose as the vet inserted a needle. I consoled my husband who never owned or rode a horse before our beloved Sport, and has no desire to ever ride another. I don't know how you feel... I know it tore our hearts out and it hurts...
     

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