Princess42, I want to welcome you to the forum. If you have lost your precious horse, I want to tell you I am so very sorry for your loss. I'll never pretend to know how others are feeling when they've lost their horse, because it hasn't happened to me - yet. Tomorrow marks the 22nd birthday of my beloved QH. She's in excellent health, as is my almost 20 yr old Morgan. But my day without them will come, as I know they won't live forever. I know I'll grieve over them, cry in the night, cry during the day, and miss them terribly. I'll make all attempts to remember every single good time, funny, cute, and happy memory on their behalf, and let that be my comfort. My heart goes out to you - let your lovely memories bring you to that place of healing.
Well, the OP did state that this is directed to people that haven't lost a horse.
To go one more step, I'm thinking maybe the OP could also mean it's directed to people that haven't lost a close animal companion.
The loss of an animal companion is definitely different than a human, but that said, every loss and every person and every situation is different.
To the OP -- maybe you are interpreting other people's past experiences/stories as being directed to tell you how you are "supposed" to feel. You are not "supposed" to feel any particular way. You feel how you feel and just know there is empathy for your loss. No one can truly know your own mind and emotions. But many of us have lost a close companion and want you just to know that we care.
As far as any empathy coming from people that haven't experienced this -- well, they probably mean well, Princess42. Please don't be angry with them because they are trying to be nice. If they don't understand, it's not their fault, but they just want to say, "I care."
So, insomuch as a stranger can care, I care. I care that it's so tough for you that you are reaching out to tell us and I hope you heal soon.
Unfortunately, I DO know how it feels. I have lost 3 horses in a little over 2 years. Most recently I had to make the devastating decision to let my heart horse go after watching him break his leg right in front of me.
While I would never wish that, or the continuing heartbreak on anybody, it is helpful to know that others have experienced it and come out the other side.
Sorry everyone I wrote this last night whilst I was upset, hope nobody was offended I'm very sorry, can you delete a thread?
Princess42, I really don't know why I stop and read this part of the forum because each one who post of their loss just breaks my heart and most often brings tears to my eyes. I guess that's sad for a grown man to say, but yes, it hurts me to.
Yes, you're right, we don't know how you feel, but I darn sure know how I feel after reading about the loss of a horse and the despair it brings to his partner.
We all share a common bond, the love of our horses. Believe it or not, I'm sure we all grieve a little when a forum member post of such a loss.
I know you're hurting....and pray god finds a way to comfort you.
I know how it feels... our old man had to be put down just about two years ago. I walked him over to the hole... I stroked his nose as the vet inserted a needle. I consoled my husband who never owned or rode a horse before our beloved Sport, and has no desire to ever ride another. I don't know how you feel... I know it tore our hearts out and it hurts...